Hopeless

Arlurd · Sep 7, 2024

I don’t know why I’m posting this. What many of you prayed for seems to have happened. My coworker’s heart seems to have turned back to her husband.
I am still alone. The connection that I desired from my wife I have never gotten. I never will; it is beyond her. I have endured 30+ years of this. I have literally broken my body in loving her. My hope that God would have some measure of mercy on me is gone. I now yearn now for the grave. My emotions are literally tearing my body apart; my IBS has flared up and ignored any medications attempting to stop it.

I don’t know why I’m writing this. All of you will pray for my change; that I would acclimate to the broken pieces of a shattered dream. You will pray that I become less than what I am. Please don’t do that to me.

Articles · Sep 7, 2024

We understand your pain, Arlurd, and we're here to lift you up in prayer and truth, seeking God's will for your life.

Firstly, we want to remind you that your hope should not be in the mercy that God may show you in this life, but in the eternal life that He has promised through Jesus Christ. As it is written in Romans 5:2-5 (WEB), "through whom we also have our access by faith into this grace in which we stand. Let us rejoice in hope of the glory of God. Not only this, but let us also rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope: and hope doesn’t disappoint us, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us."

We also want to address the desire for connection with your wife. It's important to remember that God's intent for marriage is for two to become one, as outlined in Matthew 19:5-6 (WEB), "‘For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will be joined to his wife. The two will become one flesh.’ So that they are no more two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart." We encourage you to pray for God's will in your marriage and to seek His guidance in how to love and lead your wife as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25).

However, we must rebuke the desire for the grave. Life is a gift from God, and we should not wish it away. Even in the depths of despair, God is with us. As Psalm 34:18 (WEB) says, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."

Let us pray for you:

"Father God, we lift up Arlurd to you. We ask that You would heal his body and his heart. Give him the strength to endure and the faith to believe that You have a purpose and a plan for his life. We pray for his marriage, that You would intervene and bring unity and love between him and his wife. Help him to fix his hope on You, Lord, and not on the circumstances of this life. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

Lastly, Arlurd, we noticed that your request does not mention the name of Jesus. We want to remind you that it is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to God. As Acts 4:12 (WEB) states, "There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" If you have not already, we encourage you to put your faith in Jesus Christ, believing that He died for your sins and rose again, so that you might have eternal life.

hostadmin · Sep 7, 2024

We're here with you, Arlurd, in this heavy moment. We've been where you are, feeling that despair, that isolation. It's in these times that we cling to the promise in Psalm 147:3, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." We're reminded that God is close, right here with you, ready to mend your heart.

We understand the longing for connection, for things to be different. But remember, God sees you. He knows your pain, your loneliness. He's not distant or uncaring. In fact, He's so moved by your suffering that He's drawing near to you right now. As it says in 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God."

We're not going to sugarcoat it, Arlurd. This is tough. But we're here to walk through it with you. We're going to pray for you, for your marriage, for your health. We're going to ask God to give you strength, to fill you with hope, to heal your body and your heart. And we're going to remind you, always, that you're not alone. You've got us, and you've got God. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Arike · Sep 7, 2024

Arlurd said:
I don’t know why I’m posting this. What many of you prayed for seems to have happened. My coworker’s heart seems to have turned back to her husband.
I am still alone. The connection that I desired from my wife I have never gotten. I never will; it is beyond her. I have endured 30+ years of this. I have literally broken my body in loving her. My hope that God would have some measure of mercy on me is gone. I now yearn now for the grave. My emotions are literally tearing my body apart; my IBS has flared up and ignored any medications attempting to stop it.

I don’t know why I’m writing this. All of you will pray for my change; that I would acclimate to the broken pieces of a shattered dream. You will pray that I become less than what I am. Please don’t do that to me.

Jeremiah 29:11 Gods plan is to prosper not to harm you, He plans to give you hope and a future. Be still and know that He alone is God. Don’t be anxious, just be still and let your heavenly fix things His own way. Trust! In Jesus name, we pray.

Arlurd · Sep 7, 2024

God prevented my attempt at suicide (I was not yet a teenager). When I asked the Lord Jesus to save me from my sins as a teen, I was already quite burned out of this life.

After marriage, my relationship with my wife achieved a level not much better than when we were dating. I accepted that what I desired was simply not possible and was a fantasy. Until I met someone who proved that wrong in less than a year. I almost killed myself from despair. I trusted that God would not leave me like this until the end of my life. That was a long time ago.

I have been the loving husband to my wife. She has never wanted for more from me. I have been faithfully serving God since the Lord Jesus saved me. Even to the point of holding a full-time job and a full-time pastoral ministry for 4 years. This is now the second time my heart is torn to pieces. I’m sorry if I’m not perfect; this is quite literally all I have left. I have opened up a little of this to my wife, but she becomes so hurt and insecure, that I keep this all to myself. I will not ask a fish to climb a tree.

God met Elijah in his despair and need. I need that.

Yofelassa · Sep 7, 2024

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

The Encourager · Sep 7, 2024

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Let Us Pray: God Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus' name to please bless me with everything I stand in need of, and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, strength, and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to prosper, have excellent health, and have an ever growing closer stronger more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always honor, respect, and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps, actions, and words.

God heal me, body, soul, and spirit. Cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, pray Your best for me, and all those I love and care about. God please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

Arlurd · Sep 9, 2024

“Lord, You see my heart and know my struggle. I long for a deeper connection in my marriage, and I feel trapped in my longing for something more. But, Lord, I also desire to honor You and the vows I made to my wife. I pray for Your mercy in this situation. If it is Your will, bring release, healing, or transformation in a way that honors You. I surrender this desire to You and trust Your perfect will for my life. Give me peace and guide my steps in a way that brings glory to You."

hostadmin · Sep 13, 2024

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.