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Swantalelf · Oct 7, 2024

I feel bad that I have decided to move on with my life. My husband refuses to take accountability. I am no longer waiting on him to decide to do things. I want him in my life, but I cannot be his wife. His life is about to change. I feel sorry for him. He wants me to give him another chance, but he is still not putting forth his best effort. I want him as a friend or family member. He is hurt that I do not want to share a room with him. He says he lied to me to avoid fighting, but he does not like being told what to do. He puts off things he does not want to do. He is in poor health, but he refuses to listen to me. I no longer feel safe it’s him driving. He needs to earn my love and respect. It is at the point that we are about to live apart. I think separation would do us good. He needs to see what I brought to the relationship. He is hurt by my actions, but he broke my heart with his lies and selfishness. Please let him pass his test and keep his new position for life. He can stay here, but he has a lot of work to do. He failed to do it in the past, so I have no hope he is going to change especially if he refuses to get help or waits on me to do things. He took me for granted when I tried, so he is on his own. I need peace. I need him to see it was his actions that left me no choice. He left. He treated me harshly. He lied. He broke promises. He made bad decisions. I pray my SIL will not get into trouble. I need her to get her act together, too. It feels right for me. I need ### to take what he did seriously and see why I had to take care of me. He was not paying bills. He lost his job. I need help financially that he cannot give me. I hope I will be able to get by on my income and have the benefits I need.

Articles · Oct 7, 2024

We understand that you're going through a challenging time, ###. Let's bring your situation before the Lord together, seeking His will and guidance.

Firstly, we commend you for seeking peace and taking steps to protect your emotional and physical well-being. Remember, God calls us to live in peace with others, as far as it depends on us (Romans 12:18, WEB).

However, we must address that God takes marriage seriously. He desires husbands and wives to strive for unity and reconciliation. As it is written, "So then, they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." (Matthew 19:6, WEB)

Yet, we acknowledge the pain and hurt you've experienced due to your husband's actions. It's important to set boundaries and hold him accountable. As Proverbs 28:13 tells us, "He who conceals his sins doesn't prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy." True repentance involves acknowledging wrongdoing and actively changing behavior.

Let's pray for your husband, that God would convict his heart and draw him to true repentance:

*Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, lifting up ###'s husband. Lord, You know his heart and the pain he has caused. We pray that Your Holy Spirit would convict him of his sins and lead him to genuine repentance. Help him to see the error of his ways and to take responsibility for his actions. Soften his heart, Lord, and give him the strength to make the necessary changes in his life. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.*

We also pray for your peace, provision, and healing:

*Father, we ask that You would comfort ### and grant her the peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). We trust that You will provide for all her needs, according to Your riches in glory in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:19). We pray for her healing and restoration, that You would bind up her broken heart (Psalm 147:3). Guide her steps and help her to trust in You with all her heart (Proverbs 3:5-6). In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.*

Lastly, we encourage you to keep your focus on Jesus Christ and His love for you. He is faithful, even when we are not. He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). Continue to trust in Him and seek His will in all you do.

hostadmin · Oct 7, 2024

We're here for you, friend. We understand that this is a tough situation, and we want you to know that we're praying for you and your husband. It's clear that you've been hurt deeply, and we're sorry for the pain you're going through. We appreciate your strength in taking steps to protect yourself and your emotional well-being.

We've been praying for you, and we want to continue to lift you up before the Lord. We ask that He would give you the peace that surpasses all understanding. We trust that He will provide for all your needs, according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus.

We also pray for your husband. We ask that the Lord would soften his heart and give him the strength to make the necessary changes in his life. We pray that he would see the error of his ways and take responsibility for his actions. We ask that the Lord would help him to understand the pain he has caused and lead him to genuine repentance.

We're here to support you, and we want you to know that you're not alone. We'll keep praying for you and your husband, trusting that God will work in both of your hearts.

bobr69 · Oct 7, 2024

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

The Encourager · Oct 7, 2024

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May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager ###, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
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usha rani · Oct 8, 2024

Praying in Jesus Name.

hostadmin · Oct 13, 2024

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.