HELP...

Anonymous · Sep 1, 2024

I am exhausted of existing at times. I am part of a family that likes to lie and cheat... despite the fact that I was raised to be honest and with Christian values, and I did live up to them for most of my life but got tired when I realized that no matter how much I did my best to do what the Bible says and was always honest, my family would get angry at me and treat me like their enemy because my honesty wouldn't line up to the lies, manipulations, and games they would apply to people they were taking advantage of. Also because I wouldn't support that and I would speak up against it, wouldn't participate, would do my best to not let them do that to people despite I always ended up being seen as the villain because my family would paint me that way and since "it's your dad", "it's your mom", "it's your older siblings" was mentioned I was never taken seriously...and when the truth would come out I would pay for it like if it was my fault when I was the one warning them and trying to protect them...all because my family would twist it against me. I didn't realize till I was much older that my family used me as their "scapegoat", like the one in the Bible where the Israelites would put all of their sins to and realize to the wild to die.... even though their sins aren't my fault... I had to pay for them over and over again... I always felt like an alien in my family and was always treated as less, being called stupid and not enough meanwhile they would use my intelligence, my studies, etc for their own gain....I would support them but they would take till they would leave me ripped apart and then call me stupid again, telling me I was good for nothing, etc... over and over again....and when I decided to not let them anymore....I was still the villain... I am so exhausted...that despite the truth coming to light I am never seen, never appreciated, still painted with their sins and people believing them... I am not Jesus...I am not here to die for their sins, that was already done by him and his doing was more than enough... I am not here to sacrifice myself for them....or be used.... I just wish they would stop...at least my mom...I wish she would see me and love me as her daughter...and would stop minimizing me, blaming me for her things...or for my brothers...because since he is the guy he gets all the credit he steals from me and she supports it and lets it happen... it's like they only had me to be used and disposed.... and every time I have communicated that to them they just deny everything..act like if it never happened, like if I make things up and in my dad's words, "this is why women need to be lobotomized"...... all of this ends up affecting me in jobs, relationships, etc....which they have to control, scared that I will become independent.... please help....

Articles · Sep 1, 2024

Dear one, we hear your cry and stand with you in prayer. You've carried a heavy burden, but be assured, God sees your heart and He cares. Let us first address your pain with God's Word:

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." (Matthew 11:28 WEB)

You've been battling against deceit and manipulation, even from those who should have loved and protected you. But remember, Jesus said, "If the world hates you, you know that it has hated me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love its own. But because you are not of the world, since I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you." (John 15:18-19 WEB)

Stand firm in the truth, just as you've been doing. Do not grow weary in well-doing, for in due season you will reap a harvest if you do not give up (Galatians 6:9 WEB).

Let's pray:

*Heavenly Father, we lift up our dear sister to You. She's been carrying a heavy burden for too long, Lord. She's stood for truth and righteousness, and yet, she's been persecuted for it. We ask, Father, that You comfort her heart. Let her know that You see her, You hear her, and You care.*

*We rebuke the lies of the enemy that have tried to convince her that she's less, that she's stupid, that she's not enough. Lord, fill her with Your truth. Help her to see herself through Your eyes. Give her strength to continue to stand for truth, even when it's hard.*

*We pray for her family, Lord. We ask that You would soften their hearts, that You would open their eyes to see the damage they've caused. We pray for conviction, for repentance, and for restoration. But most importantly, Lord, we pray that You would liberate our sister from the bondage of their expectations and manipulation.*

*Surround her with godly counsel, with friends who will support and encourage her. Lead her to a church where she can grow and serve, where she can be part of a family that loves and accepts her for who she is in Christ.*

*And Lord, we pray for her future. Prepare a godly husband for her, if it is Your will, who will love her as Christ loves the church. Give her hope and a future.*

*Finally, Lord, we pray that she will find her identity in You. That she will know that she is loved, accepted, and chosen. That she is a daughter of the King, and that her worth is not determined by what others say or do, but by what You say. In Jesus' precious name, we pray. Amen.*

Lastly, we encourage you to continue to trust in the Lord. The battle is not yours, but His (2 Chronicles 20:15 WEB). Keep your eyes on Him, and He will see you through. Also, we notice that you didn't mention Jesus Christ in your request. We want to remind you that it's only by His name that we can be saved and have access to God (Acts 4:12; John 14:6). If you haven't already, we encourage you to put your faith in Him. He loves you and wants to have a relationship with you.

hostadmin · Sep 1, 2024

Oh, dear friend, we see you. We see your exhaustion, your pain, and your longing for understanding and love. We're here with you, standing in the gap, lifting your burden to the Lord.

You've been carrying this heavy load for so long, trying to be honest, trying to do what's right, only to be met with anger, manipulation, and blame. It's like you've been living in a house of mirrors, where your reflection is twisted and distorted, and you're constantly being blamed for things that aren't your fault.

But we want you to know, dear one, that God sees you. He sees your heart, your struggles, and your faithfulness. He knows the truth, and He's with you in this. As Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28).

We're going to keep praying for you, for your family, and for your future. We're asking God to open their eyes, to soften their hearts, and to bring conviction and repentance. But most importantly, we're asking Him to liberate you from their expectations and manipulation. You deserve to be free, to be loved, and to be seen for who you are in Christ.

In the meantime, dear one, please, please, take care of yourself. Rest when you can, trust in the Lord, and know that He is with you. You're not alone in this. We're here, praying for you, and God is always with you.

And remember, Jesus said, "If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love its own. But because you are not of the world, since I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you" (John 15:18-19). You're not doing anything wrong. You're standing for truth, and that's worth fighting for.

Let's keep trusting in the Lord, dear friend. He sees you, He loves you, and He's got this. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Centurion · Sep 1, 2024

Anonymous said:
I am exhausted of existing at times. I am part of a family that likes to lie and cheat... despite the fact that I was raised to be honest and with Christian values, and I did live up to them for most of my life but got tired when I realized that no matter how much I did my best to do what the Bible says and was always honest, my family would get angry at me and treat me like their enemy because my honesty wouldn't line up to the lies, manipulations and games they would apply to people they were taking advantage of. Also because I wouldn't support that and I would speak up against it, wouldn't participate, would do my best to not let them do that to people despite I always ended up being seen as the villain because my family would paint me that way and since "it's your dad", "it's your mom", "it's your older siblings" was mentioned I was never taken seriously...and when the truth would come out I would pay for it like if it was my fault when I was the one warning them and trying to protect them...all because my family would twist it against me. I didn't realize till I was much older that my family used me as their "scapegoat", like the one in the Bible where the Israelites would put all of their sins to and realize to the wild to die.... even though their sins aren't my fault... I had to pay for them over and over again... I always felt like an alien in my family and was always treated as less, being called stupid and not enough meanwhile they would use my intelligence, my studies, etc for their own gain....I would support them but they would take till they would leave me ripped apart and them called me stupid again, telling me I was good for nothing, etc... over and over again....and when I decided to not let them anymore....I was still the villain... I am so exhausted...that despite the truth coming to light I am never seen, never appreciated, still painted with their sins and people believing them... I am not Jesus...I am not here to die for their sins, that was already done by him and his doing was more than enough... I am not here to sacrifice myself for them....or be used.... I just wish they would stop...at least my mom...I wish she would see me and and love me as her daughter...and would stop minimizing me, blaming me for her things...or for my brothers...because since he is the guy he gets all the credit he steals from me and she supports it and lets it happen... it's like they only had me to be used and disposed.... and every time I have communicated that to them they just deny everything..act like if it never happened, like if I make things up and in my dad's words, "this is why women need to be lobotomized"...... all of this ends up affecting me in jobs, relationships, etc....which they have to control, scared that I will become independent.... please help....

Father in Jesus name help this one out of this web of lies, deceit, and abuse.

The Encourager · Sep 1, 2024

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Let Us Pray: God Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus' name to please bless me with everything I stand in need of, and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, strength, and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to prosper, have excellent health, and have an ever growing closer stronger more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always honor, respect, and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps, actions, and words.

God heal me, body, soul, and spirit. Cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, pray Your best for me, and all those I love and care about. God please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith. Prayer written by Encourager ###, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

Lizzymay · Sep 1, 2024

Praying in Jesus Name.

Gatefen · Sep 2, 2024

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

usha rani · Sep 2, 2024

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

hostadmin · Sep 7, 2024

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.