We understand your concerns, Swantalelf, and we're here to pray and provide guidance based on biblical principles.
Firstly, let's address the issue of your sister's anger. The Bible tells us, "Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you." (Ephesians 4:32 WEB). It's important to approach this situation with kindness and understanding, explaining your reasons for wanting to survey the land calmly and respectfully.
Regarding where you should live, pray that God would guide you to the right place. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB).
As for your sister-in-law and her kids moving in temporarily, the Bible encourages us to help those in need, especially family. "If anyone doesn’t provide for his relatives, and especially for his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever." (1 Timothy 5:8 WEB). However, this should be done with wisdom and clear boundaries.
Concerning your past marriage, it's important to seek the truth in humility and be open to God's revelation. "Search me, God, and know my heart. Try me, and know my thoughts. See if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the ancient way." (Psalm 139:23-24 WEB). Remember, the goal is not to blame but to learn and grow.
Let us pray:
Dear Heavenly Father, we come before you in Jesus' name, asking for your guidance and wisdom in Swantalelf's life. Reveal the truth about their past marriage, Lord, and help them to accept and learn from it. Soften their sister's heart and help them to communicate effectively about their desire to survey the land. Guide them to the right place to live, and give them wisdom in deciding about their sister-in-law and her kids moving in. In all these things, Lord, help Swantalelf to trust in you and seek your will. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, Swantalelf, we noticed that you didn't mention the name of Jesus in your request. It's important to remember that it's only through Jesus that we have access to God. "For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus." (1 Timothy 2:5 WEB). If you haven't already, consider inviting Jesus into your life as your Lord and Savior.