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Swantalelf · Aug 19, 2024

My husband has a problem. I do not want to be in this relationship. I am afraid of what he could do to cause me to lose my house, money, or benefits. I am tired. I am just waiting to get my own insurance. Please help me find the best affordable plan for me. He makes things difficult. I hate how he makes me feel. I hate the bind he put me in. He does not think like a normal person. I hope he allows me to go with him to see his therapist. He is wasting everyone’s time. He is going to end up homeless or in jail. I wish I could let go. He has wasted his potential. I am scared, and I am worried he will treat someone better. I do not want to make a mistake. I am confused. I am scared. He will not stop being careless with money. Sometimes I feel a divorce would be a solution and peace since I cannot stop him from making bad decisions. At least if we were divorced, I would not be my concern. It would not fall on me. Please do not let him cause me problems. Please. Why is he this way. What am I doing wrong? I do not want to deal with him. Please replace what he does for me with someone else. I appreciate the help he has given me during our marriage. He will perform acts of service. He does the bare minimum. I do not know him. I do not know what he worries about. He has always acted like an older child than a spouse. I would like to experience a mature and healthy relationship. I pray he does not make things worse. Please make him stop using me as an excuse. I pray his therapist can ask the right questions. He is mad at me because he does not want to treat me better. He wants me to let him do whatever and ignore difficult topics or reality. Please let him see how he is acting. He refuses to see how he is wrong and ignorant. Help me get over him. Remove the resentment. Amen.

Articles · Aug 19, 2024

We understand your struggle and the pain you're going through. Let's first bring your situation to God in prayer.

"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who is in a difficult marriage. She feels trapped, scared, and confused. We ask for Your divine guidance and protection. Comfort her heart, Lord, and reveal Your will for her life. Help her husband to see the error of his ways and to seek Your face. We pray for wisdom for her, that she may know what to do and when to do it. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

We want to encourage you to trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB).

It's clear that your husband's behavior is causing you significant distress and harm. While God desires for marriages to be lifelong commitments (Matthew 19:6 WEB), He also does not want us to live in fear or be continually subjected to harmful behavior. It's crucial to seek God's will in this matter and also to take practical steps to ensure your safety and well-being.

We must rebuke the enabling of harmful behavior. It is not your responsibility to "fix" your husband or continually subject yourself to mistreatment. It's important to set boundaries and seek help from professional counselors and trusted individuals in your life.

We also want to address your fear of man (Proverbs 29:25 WEB). Remember that God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control (2 Timothy 1:7 WEB). Trust that God is your protector and provider. He will not leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6 WEB).

Regarding your husband's salvation, it's not your responsibility to save him. Only God can change his heart. Continue to pray for him, but remember that your spiritual well-being is important too. Stay connected to God and His Word.

Lastly, we want to address your request for someone to replace what your husband does for you. It's important to seek God first and trust Him to provide for your needs (Matthew 6:33 WEB). He is your ultimate source of comfort, provision, and love.

Please seek professional help and surround yourself with a supportive community. Keep praying and trusting God. He will make a way where there seems to be no way (Isaiah 43:18-19 WEB).

hostadmin · Aug 19, 2024

We're here with you, sister. It's okay to feel overwhelmed and scared, but remember, God is always with you. Let's pray together, "Dear Jesus, please wrap your loving arms around our sister. Give her strength to face each day, wisdom to know what to do, and courage to trust in You. Help her husband to see the pain he's causing and guide him towards change. In Your name, we pray. Amen."

We understand that you're tired and confused. It's not fair for you to bear the weight of your husband's actions. Let's ask God to help you set boundaries and prioritize your own well-being. "Lord, help her find peace amidst the chaos. Give her clarity in her thoughts and boldness in her actions. Protect her and guide her steps. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

We're here to support you, and we'll keep praying for you. You're not alone in this. Trust in God's plan, and remember, He's got this. Keep fighting, sister. We're in this together.

Centurion · Aug 19, 2024

Swantalelf said:
My husband has a problem. I do not want to be in this relationship. I am afraid of what he could do to cause me to lose my house, money, or benefits. I am tired. I am just waiting to get my own insurance. Please help me find the best affordable plan for me. He makes things difficult. I hate how he makes me feel. I hate the bind he put me in. He does not think like a normal person. I hope he allows me to go with him to see his therapist. He is wasting everyone’s time. He is going to end up homeless or in jail. I wish I could let go. He has wasted his potential. I am scared, and I am worried he will treat someone better. I do not want to make a mistake. I am confused. I am scared. He will not stop being careless with money. Sometimes I feel a divorce would be a solution and peace since I cannot stop him from making bad decisions. At least if we were divorced, I would not be my concern. It would not fall on me. Please do not let him cause me problems. Please. Why is he this way. What am I doing wrong? I do not want to deal with him. Please replace what he does for me with someone else. I appreciate the help he has given me during our marriage. He will perform acts of service. He does the bare minimum. I do not know him. I do not know what he worries about. He has always acted like an older child than a spouse. I would like to experience a mature and healthy relationship. I pray he does not make things worse. Please make him stop using me as an excuse. I pray his therapist can ask the right questions. He is mad at me because he does not want to treat me better. He wants me to let him do whatever and ignore difficult topics or reality. Please let him see how he is acting. He refuses to see how he is wrong and ignorant. Help me get over him. Remove the resentment. Amen.

Lord help her in Jesus name.

hostadmin · Aug 25, 2024

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.