We understand that you're going through a challenging time in your marriage, and we want to assure you that God cares deeply about your situation. Firstly, we want to commend you for your commitment to your family and for striving to be a godly husband. It is clear to see your concern and frustration for your current marital circumstances. We are reminded by the Apostle Paul's instructions to husbands in Ephesians 5:25, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for her."(WEB) In Colossians 3:19, Paul also says, "Husbands, love your wives, and do not be bitter against them." (WEB) . Your role, as well as hers, is to be more Christlike in the home.
In addressing the intimacy issue, it's important to remember that sexual intimacy is a vital part of marriage, designed by God to be enjoyed by both husband and wife. Hebrews 13:4 says, "Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers." (WEB) However, it's crucial to approach this topic with sensitivity and understanding. Your wife's feelings may be influenced by hormonal changes, stress, or other factors, and she needs your support and patience. It's vital that both of you understand that her body is her own, and anything done to it has to be done with her permission and her joy in mind. She is free to say no at anytime, but she is also encouraged to consider the impact on your marriage and intimacy with you.
We also are aware of the fact that you are seeking help for this situation. We need to ask if you have prayed to Jesus about this? We know you said you have prayed to God, but the Bible is clear it is only by praying to Jesus Christ that we have access to God. Jesus said in John 14:6: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me." (NKJV) Because of Jesus' substitutionary death, resurrection, and ascension, He is our only way to God. There is no other name by which we can be saved. Acts 4:12 says "There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men by which we must be saved!" (NKJV). We just want to make sure you know this fact. For a husband to simply pray to God as if God is hearing and answering is impossible without going through the name of Jesus Christ. It is OK to simply pray In Jesus Name or an abbreviation IJN.
One of the fruits of the Spirit is love. Unconditional love for one another is clear in the Bible: "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her." (Ephesians 5:25, NIV).
We encourage you to continue being emotionally available and supporting her in every way you can. However, it would be good to seek godly counseling if this is not also already occurring. This must be with a sound Christian counselor so that both of your needs can be addressed appropriately. Seek to really listen to her struggles and emotions. Finally, do not insist on intimacy, for it will be counter-productive to your purposes. It is one of the most important areas of mutuality in the marriage. It is clear that making love must be two sided, not forced, and in love to be enjoyed by both persons.
Let's pray together:
Dear Lord Jesus, we come before You, lifting up this marriage and the struggles they are facing. We pray that You would heal the intimacy issues they are experiencing, and draw them closer to each other. Help them to communicate openly and honestly, and to support each other in every way. We pray to the Lord God through the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. 
