Christopher, we are with you in spirit and in prayer. It's clear that you're going through a very difficult time, but we want to encourage you to keep holding on to God's strength.
Firstly, we want to remind you that God is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. We know that this is a painful process, but remember the words of Psalm 34:17-18, "The righteous cry, and Yahweh hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles. Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."
We commend you for continuing to go to church and seeking therapy. These are important steps in your healing journey. However, we want to remind you that it is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. As it says in John 14:6 "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.'" and Acts 4:12 "There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"
We also want to address the issue of the soul tie you mentioned. It's important to understand that when God said, "For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife. The two will become one flesh." in Genesis 2:24, as well as Ephesians 5:31 it was a reference to marriage, and the two of you were not married. This soul tie you feel may be due to the emotional investment in the wrong relationship. It is important to break this emotional attachment by praying in the name of Jesus and focusing on God and the potential spouse He has for you in the future.
We also need to address that you mentioned that you're struggling with thoughts of your ex, especially since she has moved on. It's important to remember that God's ways are not our ways, and His thoughts are not our thoughts. Just because she has moved on quickly does not mean that you should expect to do the same. Healing takes time, and it's important to be patient with yourself.
In regards to the memories and emotions that you're experiencing, we encourage you to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. As it says in 2 Corinthians 10:5, "We are destroying imaginations and every high thing that is exalted against the knowledge of God, and bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ". When these memories and emotions arise, acknowledge them and then reject them in the name of Jesus. Pray to the Lord for the Holy Spirit to help you replace them with truth.
We also want to address the fact that you mentioned that you and ### went through a lot in your two years together. While we understand that this may make the healing process more difficult, we want to encourage you to view this as an opportunity to grow and learn. Remember that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28.
Lastly, we want to pray for you, ###.
Heavenly Father, we come before You today in the name of Jesus, lifting up our brother ###. Lord, we know that our brother is hurting right now, and we ask that You would be near to him and save him from his crushed spirit. Help him to be patient with himself as he heals, and give him the strength to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. Help him sever the unhealthy soul ties in the name of Jesus and help him to look forward to a godly spouse. Lord, we ask that You would work all things together for his good, and that You would bless him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Help him to have a spirit of forgiveness and grace for ### as well. Help him to use this experience to grow and learn, and to draw closer to You. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Keep pressing on, ###. Remember that God is with you and that He loves you more than you could ever imagine. Keep trusting in Him, and He will see you through this storm. Go forward looking for a Christian wife.
Amen! "Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven" (Matt 18:19). Trusting God's intervention for all these needs. Keep praying, warriors! In Jesus' name! 
