Lichcan
Disciple of Prayer
Hello My name is ###. I'm from ###. I'm newly married, married since ###. It's purely an arranged marriage. The problem I'm facing is with my husband (###- Sub Inspector in ### Police). Before marriage, he promised me a bed of roses. For example - He promised me that we would stay together after marriage, i.e., since he is a sub-inspector, so he stays away from his home. He is posted in ###, ### Police. He lives in rent with one of his colleagues in ###. But after marriage, he strictly and clearly said that I will have to stay with my in-laws whether I like it or not. When he goes to ### (at work), he never calls me, never texts me, nor does he care. I feel lonely here. There are many times I confronted him, telling him to call me, but he would argue that if I miss him, I should call him first. And I am the only one who would call him daily. But once I stop calling him, he wouldn't bother. It feels as if I'm only interested in him and he isn't. He is also demanding a baby from me. If I'm not feeling loved and cared for, then how will my child receive love and care from his dad? ### will complete the formality of giving birth to a baby and then again he wouldn't bother, just like he did the formality of marriage but isn't bothered about his wife and responsibilities. It's been ### months already, and I don't feel the love and care I used to get from him before marriage. On ###, he came back to ###. We were chilling together. We were in the drawing room; I applied oil on his hair, and he too applied oil on my hair. We were giggling and laughing like a perfect couple. Though there are so many agreements and disagreements between us, still he was happy together. My Mother In Law was passing several times through the drawing room and was staring at us with anger. The day was spent well. But on the similar day evening, my husband and mother in law went to the market together. Very cunningly, she complained about me when they both were out. After coming back from the market, it was almost dusk, mother in law started cleaning the staircase, as if to say ### doesn't do household work. I was on the terrace, ### angrily came running to the terrace and started scolding me that you are here just to eat and sleep, you don't do any household work. That night we had a major fight in front of my in-laws. Because this was not the first time he was blaming me for not doing work. I always tried to ignore him because I know I do all my share of work. There is a certain limit to listening to such things. But if every time he would scold me for invalid reasons, I can't stand that. At ###, he called my father, knowing that my father is a heart patient and my mother is no more (since ###). He started complaining to my father and told him to take me back.....He told my father that what culture she has learnt from her father and mother..... We went on a ### trip after marriage, but he told me that he has wasted so much money on me. Therefore, I never ask anything from him. I just want you to pray for me that I might get a government teaching job, because this is the only way I can get out of this trap. My Mother In Law told me that if I get a government job, then only I can think to work outside; otherwise, not. She only wants me to work like a servant in this house. She is like a sweet poison. And also, please pray that my husband and I would share a strong bond, strong faith, and a strong connection that nobody, even my mother in law, wouldn't be able to break our bond. So that we both can live happily.
