Lichcan
Disciple of Prayer
Hello My name is Seema Toppo. I'm from Gumla Jharkhand. I'm newly married women, married since 17/01/23. It's purely arrange marriage. The problem I'm facing is with my husband (Sunny Kujur- Sub Inspector in jharkhand Police)) Before marriage he promised me bed of roses. For example - He promised me that we will stay together after marriage i.e., since he is sub- inspector, so he stays away from his home. He is posted in lohardaga Jharkhand Police. He lives in rent with one of his colleague in lohardaga. But after marriage he strictly and clearly said that I will have to stay with my In-laws whether I like it or not. When he goes to lohardaga( at work) he never calls me, never texts me, nor does he cares. I feel lonely here. There are many times I confronted him telling him to call me but he would argue that if I miss him I should call him first. And I am the only one who would call him daily. But once I stop calling him, he wouldn't bother. It feels as if I'm only interested in him and he isn't. He is also demanding a baby from me, If I'm not feeling loved and cared then how my child will receive love and care from his dad. Sunny will complete the formality of giving birth to baby and then again he wouldn't bother just like he did the formality of marriage but isn't bothered about his wife and responsibilities. It's been 4 month already and I don't feel love and care I used to get from him before marriage. On 15th of May 2023, he came back to Gumla, we were chilling together. We were in drawing room, I applied oil on his hair and he too applied oil on my hair. We were giggling and laughing like a perfect couple. Though there are so many agreement disagreement between us still he were happy together. My Mother In Law was passing several times through drawing room and was staring at as with anger. The day was spent well. But on the similar day evening, my husband and mother in law went to market together. Very cunningly she complained about me when they both were out. After coming back from market, it was almost dusk, mother in law started cleaning the staircase, as if to say Seema does't do household work. I was on terrace, Sunny angrily came running to the terrace and started scolding me that you are here just to eat and sleep, you don't do any households. That night we had a major fight infront of my in-laws. Because this was not the first time he was blaming me for not doing works. I always tried to ignore him because I know I do all my share of works. There is certain limit to listening to such things. But if everytime he would scold me for invalid reasons, I can't stand that. At 12:00 am, he called my father, knowing that my father is a heart patient and my mother is no more(since November 25/2019). He started complaining my father and told him to take me back.....He told my father that what culture she has learnt from her father and mother..... We went to Manali trip after marriage but he tonted me that he has wasted so much money on me. Therefore I never ask anything from him. I just want you to pray for me that I might get government teaching job, because this is the only way I can get out of this trap. My Mother In Law told me that if get government job then only I can think to work outside, otherwise not. She only wants me to work like a servant in this house. She is like a sweet poison. And also want you to pray that my husband and I would share a strong bond, strong faith and strong connection that nobody even my mother in law wouldn't be able break our bond. So that we both can live happily.