hello! my name is Sarah and I ...

eclecticfangirl · Mar 28, 2024

hello! my name is Sarah and I have a friend, we will call him T. for the sake of privacy. T. suffers from borderline personality disorder or bpd for short. this is a very complicated disorder that sounds absolutely horrible to live with. it stems from deep rooted abandonment issues and trauma, usually from childhood. it causes the person to be, more sensitive than the average person for lack of better term, they may experience something called "splitting" when subconsciously triggered. the person with bpd tends to see the world in black and white only, no shades of gray. things and people can only be all good or all bad. so when someone splits, their perception of a person flips completely from "oh, this person is wonderful!" to "oh, this person is terrible! what was I thinking??" they basically forget all that is good about the person, every good interaction they've had with them. they can only see their flaws and possibly ones that aren't even there. this is a defense mechanism triggered by said fear of abandonment. can't be abandoned by someone you don't even like, right? the more important the person and relationship is to them, the more likely they are to split at least once. so, with all of that context out of the way, you can probably guess that my friend recently split on me. it was from something as small as misunderstanding and overthinking a greeting, it really can be triggered by anything. a mutual friend of ours who also suffers from bpd but seems to know how to better handle her symptoms, was surprised by just how severe of a split it was over something so small and unintentional. the split has since ended but the problems have not. he is currently in an indifference stage towards me. he feels absolutely nothing towards me, like I don't even exist. this stage may be temporary as well but I am worried because he says some things about me have changed in his mind permanently and he would rather not speak with me anymore. I am trying to remain hopeful that over time this assessment will prove to have been wrong and we can reestablish our bond but the fear that I have lost him still creeps in on me. I just want things to go back to normal. I miss and love him and though I know none of this is his fault in the slightest, I am still hurt. so, I pray this is not permanent, overtime we can heal and repair our bond, stronger than ever and that this won't happen again. I also pray for his and other friend (R.)'s well being because bpd sounds like one of the worst things a person could live with. while I am here, I have another, former friend, let's call him N. who is not who I thought he was but I still care for him. I don't know if I could ever trust him again but I still pray for his well being as well and that his therapy to undo his deep rooted misogyny will be successful. I pray all three of individuals know just how loved they are. sorry this was a bit long, thank you to everyone who took the time to read it, this has been troubling me a lot. God bless.

RobertH · Mar 28, 2024

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

Articles · Mar 28, 2024

Dear Heavenly Father,

In the name of Jesus, we come before you with a prayer request on behalf of Sarah and her friend T. who is suffering from borderline personality disorder . We acknowledge that BPD is a complex disorder rooted in deep-seated abandonment issues and trauma, often from childhood. We lift up T. to you, knowing that you are the ultimate healer and restorer of brokenness.

Lord, we ask for your divine intervention in T.'s life. We pray that you would bring healing and restoration to the wounds and traumas that have contributed to the development of BPD. We ask that you would bring clarity and understanding to T.'s mind, helping them to see beyond the black and white perspective that BPD often brings. Replace their fear of abandonment with a deep sense of security in your love and presence.

Father, we specifically pray for the recent split that T. experienced with Sarah. We ask for reconciliation and restoration in their friendship. Soften T.'s heart and open their eyes to the good and positive aspects of their relationship with Sarah. Help T. to remember the moments of connection, love, and support they have shared. Remove any negative perceptions or false beliefs that may have taken root during this split.

Lord, we pray for Sarah as well. Grant her strength, patience, and wisdom as she navigates this challenging situation. Comfort her heart and give her peace in the midst of uncertainty. Help her to trust in your perfect timing and plan for her friendship with T.

We also lift up the mutual friend who understands how to manage her BPD symptoms better. We pray that you would continue to guide and support her in her journey towards healing and stability. Use her as a source of encouragement and guidance for T.

Father, we know that you are a God of restoration and reconciliation. We believe that nothing is impossible for you. We ask that you would bring healing, understanding, and reconciliation to this friendship. May your love and grace overflow in their lives, bringing them closer together and strengthening their bond.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Scripture References:
- Psalm 147:3 - "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds."
- Isaiah 41:10 - "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."
- Ephesians 4:32 - "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you."

Muani · Mar 28, 2024

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

Binenvin · Mar 28, 2024

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

usha rani · Mar 28, 2024

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

The Encourager · Mar 28, 2024

I prayed in Jesus' name that God will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Let Us Pray: God Thank You for loving me and for always being there for me. God, I ask You in Jesus' name bless me with everything I stand in need of, and everything You want me to have. Bless me to prosper, have excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Heal me in every area of my life. Let Your Word dwell within me richly. Let Your Word be a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. God bless me with Your knowledge, wisdom, peace, protection, and success in all You have called me to do. And bless me to do all You have called me to do in the spirit of excellence for Your glory. God favor me.

God bless me with the strength, desire, passion, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You, trust You, respect and obey You. Bless me to live my life to please You. God cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You or breaks your heart. Let me be a light in this dark world, lifting You up in the lifestyle that I live, because I accepted Your Son, Jesus Christ, as my Savior and Lord of ALL of my life. Let the joy of the Lord be my strength. Protect me God from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who truly love me, care about me, want Your best for me, pray Your best for me, and all those I love and care about. God please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Thank You Lord Jesus. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so in Jesus' name. Prayer was written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

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Gatefen · Mar 29, 2024

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

hostadmin · Apr 3, 2024

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eclecticfangirl · Apr 17, 2024

hello all! thank you again to everyone who took the time read my request and those who chose to pray for me. I have been silent, partly due to social anxiety, but mostly because there has nothing new to report, sadly. I have not spoken to him in weeks, since before the split. though, I've seen him once online since. did not say anything to respect his wishes, I will only speak to him if he directly speaks to me, yet seeing him made me happy at the time, despite everything. his personality was always so endearing to me. I am admittedly losing hope as time goes on, I know this has taken quite the toll on my mental well being.