Anonymous
Beloved of All
Long story short, I was born again in 2020. God has done so much work in my life. I'm very grateful for how far He has brought me. However, the spiritual attacks are too much.
One year ago I thought God had told me who my future husband was. I prayed about it. It brought so much anxiety. Finally I confessed to the guy that I liked him and asked him on a date and he said that he was not able to have a relationship. That God had underlined some things in his life that make relationships not possible.
At the same time God was bringing me out of isolation into new friendships. The first friendship I made with a girl, I felt I needed to tell her to please not do two things that have been done to me in the past by other women.
Sure enough those two things she started to do.
She's a leader now. She's flourishing in her gifts and I am drowning in despair.
I encouraged her to be a part of the worship team. So she became a part of it.
She began to act differently. And now she has a friendship with the guy that I thought would be the guy for me.
It's broken my heart. I forgiven her. But she went on to begin showing off in front of him. She had asked me not to post pictures of her and me together on social media. But shortly after she began posting pictures of her and another friend. The three of us had gone out together to the same place but she made sure to leave me out of those pictures.
I can't understand why she did these things but it's broken my heart.
I recently asked a friend to be honest with me. Whether or not I am attractive as a female.
This friend was not able to answer my question.
I took that as a sign that I am not attractive that I am ugly.
I am 40 years old, I am single. I've never been asked out.
It seems like no matter what I do I can never fit in.
It's like there's a curse upon me of rejection.
This has happened several times in several occasions.
I can never seem to make friends and people don't seem to want to be my friend.
I'm encouraging I'm there for others, I genuinely care for others I feel alone and I can never meet people who want to lift me up.
I'm at my wit's end. I don't exactly know what to pray anymore.
I stand on God's word I speak his word out loud. I have to fight horrible thoughts all the time that I'm not loved that I'll never fit in...
Something is seriously wrong with my walk.
God has delivered me from so much. I believe he has. But there's something there. It won't leave it won't go away and it's keeping me from having joy in the Lord and from feeling like I have a home and a place not just with him but with his family.
The harder this gets the more afraid I feel my heart might get hard and bitter again.
I don't want a bitter heart I don't want a hard heart.
I can't seem to understand what is wrong.
Why I'm always rejected. Why have I been praying for a husband and God won't answer even a no to that question.
I feel lost and I feel alone.
I started smoking cigarettes again... Because I can't take the pain anymore.
I deal with suicidal thoughts and each time I think I'm getting better it just gets worse.
I don't understand what's wrong with me.
I see all of these people flourishing in Christ. They're getting married they're having babies but I feel not just left behind but almost as if maybe all of this for the past three and a half years has been a test that I was meant to fail every time.
I don't know what to pray.
I just know that I need someone to please pray for me to understand and hear clearly what it is that God is asking me to do.
I want to have joy in the Lord, I pray that he creates me a clean heart. I pray he brings clarity to my situations. And I'm praying for the type of friendships that build each other up.
I want to learn how to trust God and trust the people that God has placed in my life.
But I feel like I have been beat so badly that I don't even know... Am I really walking with God or has the devil been lying and deceiving me this whole time and I thought it was God....
I get down on my knees and I asked Jesus to please help me.
To please show up in a mighty way.
I pray that I'm not ugly, it's just maybe he's hiding me for the right person.
Maybe I'm not in the right place that I need to be.
I feel like I'm a lost cause.
One year ago I thought God had told me who my future husband was. I prayed about it. It brought so much anxiety. Finally I confessed to the guy that I liked him and asked him on a date and he said that he was not able to have a relationship. That God had underlined some things in his life that make relationships not possible.
At the same time God was bringing me out of isolation into new friendships. The first friendship I made with a girl, I felt I needed to tell her to please not do two things that have been done to me in the past by other women.
Sure enough those two things she started to do.
She's a leader now. She's flourishing in her gifts and I am drowning in despair.
I encouraged her to be a part of the worship team. So she became a part of it.
She began to act differently. And now she has a friendship with the guy that I thought would be the guy for me.
It's broken my heart. I forgiven her. But she went on to begin showing off in front of him. She had asked me not to post pictures of her and me together on social media. But shortly after she began posting pictures of her and another friend. The three of us had gone out together to the same place but she made sure to leave me out of those pictures.
I can't understand why she did these things but it's broken my heart.
I recently asked a friend to be honest with me. Whether or not I am attractive as a female.
This friend was not able to answer my question.
I took that as a sign that I am not attractive that I am ugly.
I am 40 years old, I am single. I've never been asked out.
It seems like no matter what I do I can never fit in.
It's like there's a curse upon me of rejection.
This has happened several times in several occasions.
I can never seem to make friends and people don't seem to want to be my friend.
I'm encouraging I'm there for others, I genuinely care for others I feel alone and I can never meet people who want to lift me up.
I'm at my wit's end. I don't exactly know what to pray anymore.
I stand on God's word I speak his word out loud. I have to fight horrible thoughts all the time that I'm not loved that I'll never fit in...
Something is seriously wrong with my walk.
God has delivered me from so much. I believe he has. But there's something there. It won't leave it won't go away and it's keeping me from having joy in the Lord and from feeling like I have a home and a place not just with him but with his family.
The harder this gets the more afraid I feel my heart might get hard and bitter again.
I don't want a bitter heart I don't want a hard heart.
I can't seem to understand what is wrong.
Why I'm always rejected. Why have I been praying for a husband and God won't answer even a no to that question.
I feel lost and I feel alone.
I started smoking cigarettes again... Because I can't take the pain anymore.
I deal with suicidal thoughts and each time I think I'm getting better it just gets worse.
I don't understand what's wrong with me.
I see all of these people flourishing in Christ. They're getting married they're having babies but I feel not just left behind but almost as if maybe all of this for the past three and a half years has been a test that I was meant to fail every time.
I don't know what to pray.
I just know that I need someone to please pray for me to understand and hear clearly what it is that God is asking me to do.
I want to have joy in the Lord, I pray that he creates me a clean heart. I pray he brings clarity to my situations. And I'm praying for the type of friendships that build each other up.
I want to learn how to trust God and trust the people that God has placed in my life.
But I feel like I have been beat so badly that I don't even know... Am I really walking with God or has the devil been lying and deceiving me this whole time and I thought it was God....
I get down on my knees and I asked Jesus to please help me.
To please show up in a mighty way.
I pray that I'm not ugly, it's just maybe he's hiding me for the right person.
Maybe I'm not in the right place that I need to be.
I feel like I'm a lost cause.