We understand that you're going through a difficult time with Joe, and we want to help you process your feelings through prayer and biblical wisdom. First, let's acknowledge the importance of forgiveness, communication, and understanding in any conflict. Remember, our ultimate goal is to align our hearts with God's will and seek healthy relationships that move closer to God's purpose for us.
Firstly, there is no mention of Jesus in the prayer request. We must remember to pray in Jesus' name because He is the one that received our prayers and brings them to God. In John 14:6 WEB we read Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. We must make sure to pray in His name to the Father.
As for Joe's current attitude towards you, let's recall Jesus' words: "But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, and pray for those who mistreat you." Matthew 5:44 WEB This does not mean that Joe is your enemy, but it demonstrates the level of love and forgiveness we should be willing to show, even when others are upset with us.
We also need to examine ourselves and ensure we haven't contributed to the conflict in a way that contradicts biblical principles. If there is any fault on our part, be ready to confess and ask for forgiveness from God and Joe.
Here is a suggested prayer for your situation:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up Jaimorb and Joe. We pray for a spirit of forgiveness and understanding to envelop them both. Lord, we ask You to soften Joe's heart and help him find the strength to forgive, just as You forgive us our trespasses.
Help them to open up lines of communication and address the issue at hand with maturity and love. We pray for a heart change for Joe, that he may see the value of communication and understanding in resolving this conflict. Help him to remember their good times together.
Guide them both through this challenging time, and let them find resolution and peace. Most importantly, Lord, help them both grow closer to You as they seek Your will for their lives and find solutions that are honoring to You.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Now let's look at more advice from the Bible, be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. Proverbs 3:7 WEB we need to examine ourselves and make sure that we are not believing we are doing the right thing just because we think it is right. Especially when Joe seems to be upset with you we have to assume that it is possible you did or said something wrong and Joseph took exception to this. It is important to not think you are better than you are and to self examine.
Joe has decided to withhold contact from you. We need to keep a few things in mind. First, we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB This scripture is most known for telling us Christians not marry those who are not Christians. However, it also speaks of us not being in close relationships with non-believers either. Especially if the non-believer has bad moral character.
Gossip is often a factor in situations like this. We all know that Joe is upset with you, but there were weeks of failure to communicate on both sides. This failure to communicate can sometimes be a mark of bad moral character especially if there is gossip. In 2 Corinthians 12:20 WEB we read For I fear, lest, when I come, I shall not find you such as I would, and that I shall be found unto you such as ye would not: lest there be debates, envyings, wraths, strifes, backbitings, whisperings, swellings, tumults: This is what can happen when we do not communicate.
We need to pray that both you and Joe are people of good moral character with strong communication. This is not a relationship between two adults that have differences. But, it is two Christians that need thorough communication and trust in each other. These are essential to relationships and they are especially essential in marriage. A man who does not have these skills is not ready for marriage.
We should seek the fruits of the spirit in a relationship. In Galatians 5:22 WEB we read But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, The key two in this scenario are love and longsuffering in our scenario. In longsuffering we endure things that we might not want to, but need to in order to show our love for another.
Many seem to have a false hope of feelings of love. Those feelings are not love. Love is only from God and will be the type of fruits of the spirit mentioned here. We must remember that Love is giving and that giving love's expectation is joy and peace from the spirit. The feelings of love we get from the other person are not as important as the joy and peace from strong, loving communication.
We need to pray for Joe to be a God Fearing man who communicate effectively, will not take part in gossip, has good moral character, and treats you with love, gentleness, kindness, and goodness. We must also pray for yourself to be a God fearing woman who communicates effectively, does not gossip, has good moral character, and demonstrate to Joe love, gentleness, kindness, and goodness.
Contrary to popular belief, communication is not a two way street. This was not because of you in total. It is because of a lack of skill, maturity, or emotional intolelrance from Joe. All of which are needed for a successful marriage. Joe would need to eventually learn these in order to be a good spouse.
We want to look at the fact that a courting relationship should be leading to marriage. We cannot support the idea of "displaying" the idea that Joe loves you and is missing you so much he "has to take you back." We must treat Joe as a individual who has a choice who to marry. But, we definitely want to pray for Joe to be open to marriage as a part of God's plan. For him to pray and seek if you are potentially the spouse for him.
We will end in a closing prayer. Dear Heavenly Father, we pray that you guide Joe and Jaimorb both to the right marriages. Whether it is with each other or another believer. We pray that both Joe and Jaimorb look towards marriage as the guidance for relationships. We pray that if Joe is to marry Jaimorb that they both come to a place of communicating and trusting each other again. We pray that you soften Joe's heart that he can make more spiritually mature decisions. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.