God...Why? I know it's wrong to question you but...I ...

[Bratknee1996]

God...Why? I know it's wrong to question you but...I just want to know why you're putting me through what I go through and why someone else can't. Why can't he just be perfect like my best friend's boyfriend and already be over his drugs and found you again? Why am I going through what I am? Why am I losing my family and friends to be with him? Why won't my family and friends open their Christian arms and help him come back to you, the way I do? Why does it seem like You want me with him for some reason when I'm losing everyone around me to be with him? Why does it feel / seem like he's the one for me...when he seems so bad for me? Is he part of the plan? Is he who I'm made for? Why do people attack me for being with who I love instead of trying to help him the way I do? Why do my friends and basically family tell me that he cheats on me but I ask him and his friends and his friends that hang out with me as well as him and his family if he does and they all say no? What am I supposed to believe here, God?? I just...I just don't understand, Lord. I don't understand what you want me to do. I can't stay away from him but I'm not supposed to be with anyone who doesn't share my faith....I can't and don't want to stay away from him...I want to help him...I know I can't help someone who doesn't want help and I know I can't make him change. Lord, just please...give him the nudge in the direction back to you...God, please...Give him wisdom, give him guidance, give him strength...Lord, please. He's struggling extremely badly right now and I know it doesn't matter if I want him to struggle anymore or not if he is resistant to you and is against you...but please, Lord. He just needs help. I need help. Please...We, as a couple, need help...Just, please God, send me some signs or signals as to what I should do. Should I go ahead and give up on him to get my family and friends back? Or should I do what I feel like you're telling me to do and want me to do and stay with him and keep trying to bring him back to you along with me? What do I do? Please...Help Me. Speak to me, some how. Please.

 

[FROMWOUNDEDNESS]

First of all...if he is using drugs and/or alcohol, I think you KNOW the answer to your questions (i.e. is he cheating? why don't my ffriends or family support this relationship?) You know deep down in your heart the answers, but you are not reading to accept them. God will not force you to see the truth any more than he will force someone to come to Christ.

Yes....we are called to be examples, preachers to the Lost. But God does not expect us to knowingly put ourselves in harms way. I understand loving someone more than their addiction, BUT I also know that staying with them only encourages them to stay the way they are. Scripture tells us "to flee" the devil, it also tells us that we do not have to remain unequally yoked. God wants you to be be someone that loves you, supports you. He probably thinks that he does....but true love heals, it is selfless.

I am sorry that you are hurting, and God can help. BUT you have to be willing to head the holy spirit's advice, not just solicit it. It took me a LONG time to leave my then abuser. No he wasn't physically abusive, but the heartbreak he continually put me thru was more than enough. I asked God, "is he cheating?", "should i stay or go?" and various other questions for 6 years before I finally listened. He gave me the "signs" but I chose to ignore them....even after he came home with the 1st STD. I thought, I want my daughter to know her father. I thought a million things. And, sadly, 16 years later he is still the same man he was then. I continue to pray for him, and his soul. But ultimately Shane is responsible for his own repentance-he knows better but chooses the lie. Now...he has even lost his daughter. Within the past 9 months, she has made the decision to stop talking to him completely (for a variety of reasons), but mainly because he treats her like every other woman in his life- a princess only after ignoring her for weeks, only once she is upset with him or she confronts a lie.

I'm sorry...this is not the response i intended or likely what you want to hear, but it is what God placed on my heart. I am praying for you both. Do what you KNOW God has placed on your heart. And continue to pray for him, no matter what you decide to do for yourself.

 

[jojosymon]

Lord please guide this sister on to the path you have for her. Help her understand that You and You alone can help her friend. Help her to know that For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places, EPH 6:12. She can only stand aside loving from afar and allow You to work in Your time and according to Your will. Lord help her to understand that Love is not enabling and to put her full faith in you. Help her focus on what you want her to do and to allow you to release others from their addiction. I say these things in Jesus name Amen

 

[Action238]

Lord I come before you and stand before You and ask that Your Mercy cover him and bring him back home to You. Lord speak to his heart and reveal Yourself to him in a mighty way. Lord reach his senses and bind this stronghold of addiction set him free from this demon in Jesus name. Lord touch her mind and let her act upon what You are speaking to her heart. Lord let her know the anxiety and panic are warnings she is not in Your will. Lord guide her steps to righteousness and let her wait upon You and Your promises...let her wait close to You Lord and not in a place of Fear and confusion Let her understand that if she leaves the fold too that no one is there near You to claim the Promises of Your word. Lord let her stand firm with family and church and claim the blessings that You are about to place in front of her. Let her know to stay firm in You and her beliefs to fight the fight against these principalities in high places that have come against her boyfriend and let her stand firm with Your Spirit as One knowing that You are able to do above and beyond all that she could ever hope for....Lord guide him to Teen challenge and let him receive help to show him his way back home in Jesus name we pray...

My dear...leaving the fold and Protection of God... to chase him while he is being led by demons into a world of sin that goes with addiction.... is indeed a very dangerous place for you to go. and he is not going to listen to you anyway...he has to want to change and he is trapped within himself at the moment...weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning....If you follow him to "save" him you will find yourself in the same boat as him....that's a fact...not my opinion...I work with addicts...encourage him to go to Teen Challenge. and if he does not...he is not ready....you stay close to family and church and get down on your knees and pray...that's where you can help him...in Spirit make yours one with God...God is not the one "doing" this...your boyfriend is and has choice...God's hand is outstretched and calling him to righteousness by Grace and Mercy...get your mind set on really helping fight for his soul...words, your words are worthless and without meaning to his spirit...God's Spirit will touch his because you are asking and you are obedient...God can not hear a child in a tantrum or hysterics...walk by faith and not by sight...little one this is the time you grow up...in Him and as a women of God..fight the fight that matters...a mind set on Him..knowing He knows....

 

[FROMWOUNDEDNESS]

POST NOTE..............IF I DIDNT SAY THIS EARLIER......YOU ARE A STRONG WOMAN FOR SEEKING HELP/PRAYERS FROM OTHERS. YOU CLEARLY HAVE THE HEART OF CHRIST AND YOU ARE EVEN STRONGER FOR PRAYING!!!!!!!!!!!!

"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power.

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Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand . . .

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Put on the full armor of God, so that when the day comes,

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you may be able to stand your ground,

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and after you have done everything, to stand."

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Ephesians 6: 10 and 13

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Thank you for having the courage to share with us and pray with us. NEVER forget that God loves you, he died for YOU.

 

[TJS]

TAKE TIME TO LISTEN.......BE PATIENT AND LISTEN.........HEAR HIS VOICE......HE IS WITH YOU. TRUST IN HIM, ALWAYS AND BE PATIENT.......I KNOW IT'S HARD, BUT TRUST IN HIM. DEAR GOD SPEAK TO HER IN A WAY THAT SHE WILL UNDERSTAND AND ANSWER HER PRAYERS IN YOUR PERFECT WAY, IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME, AMEN!!!