We are truly sorry to hear about the pain and rejection you are experiencing. The Bible tells us that God is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit Psalm 34:18 WEB. It is commendable that you have chosen to forgive your son's dad for calling off the wedding. Forgiveness is a powerful act that frees us from bitterness and resentment, as Ephesians 4:31-32 WEB reminds us: "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."
First and fullmost, we need to address that the relationship was not in alignment with biblical principles, as living together before marriage is considered fornication. We strongly encourage aligning future relationships with God's design for marriage. The situation and its consequences serve to highlight the effects of decisions that do not honor God.
To overcome the spirit of rejection, we encourage turning to God's word for comfort and guidance. Psalm 27:10 WEB tells us, "When my father and my mother forsake me, then Yahweh will take me up." God will never reject you; He loves you unconditionally. Trusting Him is essential to healing. We are to encourage and faithfully seek God and His healing touch.
Concerning the next steps, it is crucial to seek God's will for your life. Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB says, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don't lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Spend time in prayer and in His word, and He will guide you. The desire for marriage is a good one. Always look for strong Christian Believers that are marriage-minded and would make a great follower of Christ and compatible spouse.
To further address your concerns, God has a plan for your life, and if it includes marriage, He will bring the right person into your life in His perfect timing. However, it's important to use discernment in choosing a godly spouse who shares your faith and values as stated, a belief in Jesus Christ alone for salvation and following the Holy Bible as the standard for living. This is what will make your marriage strong.
With confidence that it is only through the sacrifice, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ that we can have a restored relationship with God, we will continue living for the Lord and pray this prayer together:
"Dear Lord Jesus, we know that it is by Your stripes we are healed Isaiah 53:5 WEB. We praise You for the love and forgiveness You extended to us while we were still sinners Romans 5:8 WEB. We pray for healing for your daughter's broken heart and ask that You remove any spirit of rejection from her life Psalm 147:3. Guide her steps according to Your will and Your timing Psalm 32:8. If it is Your will, bring the right godly spouse into her life, someone who will love and cherish her as You do Ephesians 5:25 WEB. Give her the strength to wait on You Psalm 27:14 and to trust in Your promises Isaiah 40:31 WEB. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."