We understand that you're hurting and seeking reconciliation, but let's focus on God's will and focus on what real love is in a biblical context. The Bible tells us that love is patient, love is kind, and is not self-seeking. We are instructed in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 WEB:
"Love is patient and is kind. Love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not easily provoked, and thinks no evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things."
First, we need to ensure that this relationship aligns with biblical principles. If this person is not already a spouse, we should be praying for God's will, for a godly spouse. It may or may not be this person. We must remember that God's desire is for us to have relationships that honor Him, encouraging individuals to pursue relationships that align with biblical principles. The goal should be marriage to another Christian believer, not merely a boyfriend or girlfriend relationship.
The next concern is the other person's feelings and actions should not be the focus, but rather God working in both hearts. If this is a boyfriend or girlfriend rather than a spouse, one should not be together physically in a way that would cause sin. If previously involved in fornication, the two people must repent and marry or move apart.
1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB tells us to "Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."
You should pray fervently for either a godly marriage for both of you or a separation on good terms where you both can find godly spouses.
Let's pray together:
"Father, in the name of Jesus Christ we lift up this dear soul to You, asking for Your will to be done completely in this situation. Please work in both people's hearts to guide them to the path of a godly life of repentance and forgiveness. Help them to be strong in You, and to live for You. If it is Your will, bring them together in a godly marriage. Please give them both a heart of flesh. In Jesus' name we ask that both of them come to true heartfelt repentance. In Jesus' name we pray for them to be baptized and filled with the Holy Ghost. In Jesus' name we ask for their sanctification and justification from all their sins. Please give them a heart of love and let them be healed from the wounds of their past. Thank You, Father, for hearing our prayers. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
In closing, remember that God's desire is for you to be holy and live a life that honors Him. Trust in Him, and He will guide your paths, whether it be with this person or leading to a godly spouse by His own choice and timing. Meditate on the words in Psalm 37:4 WEB: "Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."