We are truly saddened to hear about the struggles you are facing in your marriage, Iradarurdion. We want to first assure you that God cares deeply about your situation and He wants to help you.
Firstly, we want to address the issue of pornography. This is a grave sin that goes against God's design for marriage and sexual intimacy. As it is written in Ephesians 5:3 WEB, "But sexual immorality, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not even be mentioned among you, as becomes saints." Pornography is a form of sexual immorality and it is destroying your marriage. Your husband needs to repent from this sin, seek God's forgiveness, and find help to overcome his addiction.
Secondly, we want to address the narcissistic behavior you mentioned. This is also a concern as it goes against the biblical principles of love, humility, and mutual submission in marriage. As it is written in Ephesians 5:21 WEB, "subjecting yourselves one to another in the fear of Christ." Marriage is a union where both husband and wife are to love, respect, and submit to one another.
However, we want to encourage you not to make any hasty decisions. God hates divorce, as it is written in Malachi 2:16 WEB, "For I hate divorce, says Yahweh, the God of Israel." We encourage you to seek godly counseling and support to help you through this difficult time.
We also want to remind you that God can heal and restore your marriage, no matter how broken it may seem. As it is written in Matthew 19:6 WEB, "So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate."
Let us pray for you:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today, lifting up our sister Iradarurdion and her marriage. Lord, we pray for her husband, that You would convict his heart and help him to see the error of his ways. We pray that he would repent from his pornography addiction and seek Your forgiveness. We also pray that You would soften his heart and help him to overcome his narcissistic behavior.
Lord, we pray for Iradarurdion, that You would give her the strength and wisdom to handle this situation. We pray that You would guide her steps and help her to make decisions that are in line with Your will. We also pray that You would heal her heart and give her the grace to forgive her husband.
Lord, we pray for their marriage, that You would heal and restore it. We pray that You would help them to rebuild their relationship on a foundation of love, trust, and mutual submission. We also pray that You would protect their children and help them to navigate this difficult time.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, we want to encourage you to seek God's will in all things and to trust in Him. As it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don't lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."
Please keep us updated on your situation so that we can continue to pray for you.