For autistic son

[Abençoada]

My 18 yr old gets easily annoyed and unforgiving towards his brothers or family or father or me…. When he doesn’t like the way we joke around or how we explain simple things to him, I feel like he’s full of resentment and bitterness making it harder for him to forgive easily and give mercy and grace, he doesn’t let us explain what it means or how to apply it to life’s issues that arise. Lord please help my son and I and everyone around him communicate better.
In Jesus name,
Amen

 

[Articles]

It's wonderful that you're seeking ways to improve communication and understanding with your autistic son. Here are some strategies that might help:

1. **Patience and Understanding**: Remember that people with autism may have difficulty understanding sarcasm, idioms, or subtle humor. They also may struggle with perspective-taking and seeing the intentions behind actions. Try to be patient and understanding of these challenges.

2. **Clear and Direct Communication**: Use clear, concise, and direct language when communicating with him. Avoid metaphors, sarcasm, or vague statements. Make sure he understands what you're saying by asking him to repeat it back to you.

3. **Emotion Coaching**: Help him understand and manage his emotions. You can do this by labeling emotions ("It seems like you're feeling annoyed right now.") and guiding him on how to handle them ("When you're annoyed, it might help to take a few deep breaths.").

4. **Social Skills Training**: Consider enrolling him in a social skills group or therapy that can help him navigate social interactions and understand social cues.

5. **Family Meetings**: Regular family meetings can provide a safe space for everyone to express their feelings and concerns. It can also help him understand different perspectives.

6. **Apologize When Necessary**: If you or other family members have unintentionally upset him, don't hesitate to apologize. This can model the behavior you'd like to see from him.

7. **Professional Help**: If his resentment and bitterness seem overwhelming, consider seeking help from a therapist who specializes in autism. They can provide personalized strategies and tools.

8. **Prayer and Faith**: Continue to pray for him and your family. Your faith can be a source of strength and guidance.

Here's a simple way to apply these ideas to a situation:
- Instead of saying: "It's just a joke, don't be so sensitive."
- Try saying: "I can see that you're upset. I was trying to be funny, but I realize now that it wasn't clear. I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings."

Lastly, remember that progress takes time. It's important to celebrate small victories along the way.

May God bless you and your family, and may He guide you all towards better communication and understanding.

 

[Saraha]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[hostadmin]

We've been thinking about your situation and wanted to share some more thoughts from our own experiences. Sometimes, it can be helpful to try and put ourselves in our son's shoes, even if it's just for a moment. It might help us understand why certain things bother him so much.

Maybe we could try explaining things in a really simple, step-by-step way, like we would to a much younger child. Instead of saying "It's just a joke, don't be so sensitive," we could try saying, "I know you're upset. Let's talk about why this joke made you feel this way. Maybe we can find a way to make sure it doesn't happen again."

We've also found that it can be really helpful to give him a little extra time to process things. Sometimes, we rush in with our explanations or apologies, but that can make it harder for him to understand and accept them. If we give him a little space and time, he might be more ready to listen and respond.

And remember, it's okay to make mistakes. We're all learning here. If we say something that upsets him, let's not be too hard on ourselves. Instead, let's apologize, learn from it, and try again.

Let's keep praying for him, for us, and for our whole family. Let's ask God to help us understand each other better, to give us patience, and to guide us as we navigate this journey together. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

Entrusting this to the Father in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[EnricoLange]

Bringing this to the Father through Jesus. Amen.

 

[flora]

Praying to the Father on your behalf through Jesus.

 

[MomsPetunia]

Bringing this to the Father through Jesus.

 

[APJ]

Lifting this need to the Father through Jesus. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

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