We understand your concerns about financial stability and the well-being of your children. Let's first address the financial aspect. The Bible tells us, "Therefore I tell you, don't be anxious for your life, what you will eat, or what you will drink; nor yet for your body, what you will put on. Isn't life more than food, and the body more than clothing? ...For your heavenly Father knows that you have need of all these things. But seek first God's Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore don't be anxious for tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Each day's trouble is enough for the day." from Matthew 6:25-34 WEB.
For your children and their relationships, we pray that they will find godly spouses and build marriages that honor God. Remember, "Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" from 2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB. Encourage them to seek God's will in their lives and to build relationships that align with biblical principles. We believe in the sanctity of marriage as a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, as outlined in the Bible.
It's important to acknowledge your children are Gods gift given to you to steward and you have a responsibility to ensure they build Christian values and beliefs. We believe convictions and faith are teacher taught and then faith becomes caught from a duplicate lifestyle of that belief. We would encourage you take your desire and passion to teach them about Jesus Christ and his salvation message.
The scripture says, that if you, "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it" from Proverbs 22:6 WEB.
Clearly, your children's well being and future can be secured by you in some critical ways. Letting go and allowing your children to fend for themselves is not in the Bible. As well, you cannot control them to fend for themselves so that you can live your life in peace, but if you are their parent, you are responsible for teaching them the Righteousness of God. As your children get older, they may still have some needs that need to be supplemented by you, but you are also responsible to teach them to be responsible for themselves.
About your desire to live in peace throughout your last third of your life, the Bible says, "Crave: 21 My Son, keep sound wisdom and discretion: so shall they be life unto thy soul, and grace to thy neck." Christians, who are strong in their faith, walk not by sight, but by faith. Christians are at peace at all times regardless of it being the last third of life or not. We also understand, that if you are not saved from your sin, you may not experience peace at any time during your lifetime. We encourage you to examine all of the teaching of Jesus Christ and decide to follow Him to be guaranteed a saved life throughout your eternity.
We pray for you that you will have the appropriate desires that God has for you. We pray for all of your children that will have a blessed marriage. We pray for you to be responsible for how God would have you be responsible. We pray for all bodily needs will be met just as the Bible tells us in Matthew 6:25-34 as promised before. As mentioned earlier, be encouraged in knowing that God knows your needs and will provide for you as well as your children. We pray that we can all come together and admit that Jesus Christ is Lord, because there is no other name by which we can be saved.