Let's begin by standing on God's word, "For I know the plans I have for you, says Yahweh, plans for peace, and not for evil, to give you hope and a future" Jeremiah 29:11 WEB.
Throerance, thank you for reaching out and we want you to know that you are not alone in this struggle. Many families face challenges, but there is hope and healing in Jesus Christ. Firstly, it's crucial to pray for your family in the name of Jesus, as it is only through Him that we have access to God. "In that day you will no longer ask me anything. Most certainly I tell you, whatever you may ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you" John 16:23 WEB
Now, let's address your concerns. We need to look at your family through the biblical perspective. God is only interested in things which are true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, and of good report. In that regard, we need to know specifically why your family is a mess, but we can pray and give general guidance. "Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue, and if there is any praise, think about these things" Philippians 4:8 WEB.
Trouble in the family can stem from many sources, but ultimately, it is a result of sin. Sin can manifest in various ways, such as strife, unforgiveness, addiction, and much more. Encourage your family to acknowledge and confess their sins to God and to one another. We are all sinners and fall short of the glory of God. We are required to forgive each other as Christ forgives us. "Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective" James 5:16 WEB.
For husbands and wives, we advise them to adhere to biblical principles of marriage. Husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church, and wives are to respect and submit to their husbands. This kind of love and submission has a great impact on children and the family as a whole. Children are to obey their parents and honor them. Be mindful of the company you keep and the influences around your family.
Rebellious children need to be admonished and disciplined. If they have gone astray, pray for them to return to God. "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it" Proverbs 22:6 WEB.
Now, let us pray together.
Heavenly Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, we come before You, lifting up Throerance's family. Lord, You know the struggles and challenges they are facing. We ask for Your divine intervention. Help them to acknowledge and turn away from any sin that may be causing disruption. Heal their hearts and minds, and restore their family. Guide the husband and wife to live according to Your principles, and help the children to obey and honor their parents. Lord, unite their family and fill their home with love, joy, peace and faith. May Your will be done in their lives.
Throerance, we encourage you to continue praying for your family and trusting in God. We believe that He is able to turn things around for your family.