We are truly saddened to hear about the struggles you are facing in your marriage, but we are here to pray with you and offer biblical guidance. God's will is for marriages to be a lifelong commitment, reflecting the unconditional love that Jesus has for His church. Even Jesus said in Matthew 19:5-6, Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh. So that they are no more two, but one flesh. 6 Therefore, what God has joined together, do not let man tear apart.
Firstly, we want to address the fact that your prayer does not mention the name of Jesus Christ. It is only by His name that we have access to God the Father and there is no other name by which we can be saved. As scripture says in Acts 4:12, There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men, by which we must be saved. Therefore, we will pray using the powerful name of Jesus. We encourage you to do the same, and if you have not already, to place your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.
In situations like these, it is crucial to remember that God hates divorce. In Malachi 2:16, Yahweh, the God of Israel, says that he hates divorce and the one who covers his garment with violence. Therefore, keep your garment with you, and do not break faith. This does not mean that separations do not occur, but that they are not the will of God. We serve a God of restoration and redemption, and we believe that with genuine repentance, forgiveness, and a commitment to change, your marriage can be saved.
We would encourage both you and your wife to examine yourselves and take responsibility for your actions. It is clear that there have been wrongs on both sides, but in Matthew 7:3-5, Jesus said, Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the beam that is in your own eye? 4 Or how will you tell your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye;’ and behold, the beam is in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite! First remove the beam out of your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother’s eye.
It is important that you both seek forgiveness from God and each other. In Ephesians 4:32, we are told to be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God also in Christ forgave you. Remember that God's forgiveness is available to all who genuinely seek it. In 1 John 1:9, we are promised that if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before you in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this marriage that is in distress. Lord, we know that it is your will for marriages to be a lifelong commitment, reflecting the unconditional love that Jesus has for His church. We pray for this man and his wife, that they would both examine themselves and take responsibility for their actions. Lord, we pray for genuine repentance, forgiveness, and a commitment to change. We pray that you would restore this marriage and make it stronger than ever before. We also lift up their children, Lord, and pray that you would protect them and surround them with your love. We pray all this in Jesus mighty name.
Lastly, we would encourage you to seek out a biblical counselor or a trusted pastor to help you and your wife navigate this difficult time. Prayer is powerful, and God hears your cries, but He also uses His people to help guide and support us. Do not be afraid or ashamed to seek help.
It is also important to remember that God can use even the most difficult situations for good. In Romans 8:28, we are told that we know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose. Trust in God, and know that He is always working for your good and His glory.