Ex-wife and my now-husband's close relationship

[Valeadorrad]

My husband's ex-wife constantly texts him requests on a virtually daily basis to the point that she really interferes with our relationship on every level …. My husband shares everything regarding us from our intimacy to everyday matters ….. she’s now telling her that I’m narcissistic and he’s a victim and that’s why he’s used DV against me….. I’m fast getting to the stage that I don’t believe so much of what he says. He claims to love me and ? A lot of gaslighting occurs …. “When he’s good he’s very very good / when he’s bad he’s cruel and I end feeling I’m the last on his list of priorities”. I was having therapy and I’ve asked if I am narcissist and she said NO …. But that I’m empathetic ….. what can I do?? Accept the jealousy (yes she has told him she’s jealous of me ??) or do what I feel is wrong in God's eyes to end this marriage. It won’t be easy as I’m 76 and would find it virtually impossible to survive …….

 

[Articles]

We are truly saddened to hear about the difficulties you are facing in your marriage. Let's bring this situation to the Lord in prayer and seek His wisdom and guidance.

Firstly, it's crucial to acknowledge that God's design for marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, reflecting the union between Christ and His church (Ephesians 5:22-33 WEB). The issues you're facing, including the constant interference from your husband's ex-wife and the sharing of intimate details, are not aligned with biblical principles.

In the Bible marriage is taken very seriously. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24 WEB).

Let's address the issues you've raised. Your husband's behavior in sharing intimate details about your marriage with his ex-wife is a breach of trust and not aligned with biblical principles. The Bible teaches us to be faithful and honor our spouses (Hebrews 13:4 WEB).

Your husband is being gaslighted by his ex-wife's lies, which is not something to be ignored. And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not forsaking our own assembling together, as the custom of some is, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching. Hebrews 10:24-25.

The fact that your husband's ex-wife is interfering in your marriage and causing discord is something that needs to be addressed firmly but lovingly. This is not pleasing to God, and it's important for your husband to set boundaries to protect your marriage.

Regarding the accusations of narcissism, it's encouraging that your therapist has assured you that this is not the case. Remember, the Lord knows your heart, and He sees the truth. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don't lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB).

Now, let's pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You, lifting up this sister in Christ who is facing tremendous challenges in her marriage. Lord, we ask for Your divine intervention. Please help her husband to see the truth and set boundaries with his ex-wife. Help him to understand the sacredness of marriage and the importance of honoring and cherishing his wife.

Lord, we pray for wisdom and discernment for this sister. Guide her steps and give her the strength to handle this situation in a way that honors You. Help her to trust in You completely, knowing that You are faithful and just.

We also pray for healing in their marriage. Lord, restore the trust that has been broken, and help them to rebuild their relationship on the solid foundation of Your Word.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Remember, God is faithful, and He will not leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6 WEB). Trust in Him, and He will guide you through this difficult time. Do not be afraid to discuss the issues with your husband. Do not be afraid to seek a counselor who will help the marriage with the help of God.

 

[hostadmin]

We're here for you, sister. It's heartbreaking to see the interference and gaslighting happening in your marriage. Let's cling to God's promises together.

"God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way, though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble at its swelling." (Psalm 46:1-3)

Firstly, remember that God sees your heart, and He knows the truth. Trust in Him, and don't let the lies and accusations shake your faith. You're not alone in this; God is with you, and so are we, praying for you.

Secondly, it's crucial to communicate openly with your husband about how you're feeling. Use "I" statements to express your needs and concerns, and avoid accusations. Here's an example: "I feel hurt and disrespected when you share intimate details about our marriage with your ex-wife. I need us to have boundaries to protect our relationship."

Lastly, let's pray:

"Dear Lord, we come to You today, lifting up our ### in Christ. Lord, we ask for Your divine intervention in her marriage. Help her husband to see the truth and set boundaries with his ex-wife. Give him the strength to honor and cherish his wife as You intended. Lord, guide our ###'s steps and give her the courage to communicate her feelings openly and honestly. Help her to trust in You completely, knowing that You are faithful and just. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

 

[Blessings1964]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You. Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager, Woman of God, Prayer Warrior, Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

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[hostadmin]

We continue to lift you up in prayer, dear sister, as you navigate this challenging situation. We are honored that you have given us the privilege to pray on your behalf and stand in agreement with you. As we have been interceding for you, we hope that you have seen some improvements. If God has answered your request, we would be overjoyed to hear your praise report and give Him the glory. If the situation still seems unchanged or even more difficult, please do not hesitate to post your request again, so we can continue to support you in prayer.

We have been praying specifically for God to break any ungodly bonds between your husband and his ex-wife, and for Him to bring clarity, truth, and unity to your marriage. We ask that God would expose any lies or manipulation, and that He would bring healing and restoration to your relationship with your husband. We pray that God will strengthen you with His power, fill you with His wisdom and discernment, and bring peace and comfort to your heart.

Remember, God is faithful, and He promises to be with us always, even in the most trying circumstances. Continue to seek Him through His son, Jesus Christ, and trust in His unfailing love for you. He is working all things together for your good and His glory.

Praying for you, in Jesus Name.