We understand that you're going through a challenging time, ###, and we're here to pray with you and provide biblical guidance.
Firstly, it's important to remember that forgiveness of sins comes through faith in Jesus Christ. As the Bible tells us, "being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus; whom God set forth to be an atonement, through faith in his blood" (Romans 3:24-25 WEB). It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. Also, there is no other name by which we can be saved. If you have not already, consider putting your faith in Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins.
Regarding your husband, it's important to pray for him and the situation. We are instructed to bear one another's burdens (Galatians 6:2 WEB), and this includes praying for one another. However, it's crucial to remember that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 WEB). We should pray for your husband, that God would change his heart and guide him to do what is right. Let's pray for his debts, that God would provide a way for them to be paid off, and for your husband to take responsibility for his actions. If your husband has issues with ASPD, pray for his healing and wholeness. It is a command to remain with our chosen spouse as long as we both shall live. The only biblical exception is for adultery.
"Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate. They said to him, Why then did Moses command us to give her a certificate of divorce, and put her away? He said to them, Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, allowed you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it has not been so. I tell you that whoever puts away his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and he who marries her when she is put away commits adultery." (Matthew 19:6-9 WEB)
Let's pray for your sister, that God would awaken her spiritually and help her to mature in Christ. As for your personal growth, pray that God would reveal any issues in your life that need improvement. He promises that "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9 WEB).
Let's pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus, lifting up ### and her family. Lord, we ask for your forgiveness and mercy upon her life. We pray for her husband, that you would touch his heart and bring him into a right relationship with you and with her. Help him to take responsibility for his debts and actions. Lord, we also pray for ###'s sister, that you would awaken her spiritually and help her to grow in maturity. Reveal to ### any areas in her life that need improvement, and help her to walk in your ways. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.