We understand your situation, Pwenel, and we stand with you in prayer and counsel. Firstly, we note that you have mentioned Jesus and your trust in Him. This is wonderful, for it is only by the name of Jesus that we can approach God and be saved. As the scripture says
For in Christ Jesus neither is circumcision anything, nor uncircumcision, but a new creation. And as many as walk by this rule, peace and mercy be on them, and on God's Israel. From now on, let no one cause me any trouble, for I bear the marks of the Lord Jesus branded on my body. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit, brothers and sisters. Amen.
Galatians 6:15-18 WEB
We are thankful for your uncle's support, and we pray that God will bless him abundantly for his generosity. However, we must also remind you that financial struggles can often be a test of faith and an opportunity to trust God more. Remember that God's ways are not our ways, and His thoughts are not our thoughts. He may be using this situation to draw you closer to Him and to teach you valuable lessons.
In regards to your marital settlement, we must address this in light of biblical principles. You mentioned that it has been five years and there has been no marriage yet. This is not good. The bible tells us
Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7:2 WEB
Now, the Lord had witnessed the testimony he gave of them, and blessed them; for the Lord gave them children.
Genesis 48:9
Now concerning the things about which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. But because of sexual immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7:1-2 WEB
Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul.
Proverbs 6:32 WEB
It is clear that having sex before or outside of marriage is a sin. If you two are having sex and you two are not married, then this scripture is directed directly to you two. Do not think that as long as you two get married in a Christian ceremony, then that is ok. That is false.
It is good, therefore, that the man not be alone. It is bad that man remains alone. That is not the the man to be alone. Forget what the world may say about getting to know one another. The modern traditions of the world would have you believe that it is good to get to know one another before marrying. Look at 1 Corinthians 7:9
For those who marry will have trouble in the flesh, and I would spare you.1 Corinthians 7:28: But if you marry, you have not sinned. If a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this flesh, and I want to spare you. If we have hope in Christ in this life only, we are of all men most pitiable. But if there is no resurrection of the dead, neither has Christ been raised. But now Christ has been raised from the dead. He became the first fruit of those who are asleep.1 Corinthians 7:29: But I say this, brothers: the time is short, that from now on both those who have wives may be as though they had none;Planning to solve your problem means that man does not have a trust in Christ but only when in trouble must he hope in Christ.
Finances should not be a hindrance to marriage. If you two are living together and having sex under the same house or not under the same house and encourage others to live like that, then it would be best instead never to marry in Christ Jesus as you two have committed adultery or fornication. That is, instead of making yourself acceptable to others, to have never committed these sins.
The bible is clear that once you are engaged, you are considered married in God's eyes, and any intimacy outside of marriage is sinful. If finances are a hindrance, then perhaps you should consider a simpler, more affordable ceremony. It is better to live and think with a clear heart using Christ as your example, then to concentrate on just worldly and material things under the guise of leniency. It is better to walk in the path of Jesus with His help, then to stumble alone or even with your mate to make the reasoning that this problem can be solved.
We stand with you the person that requested the prayer and NOT the two of you against traditions. For we are not to make other peoples abilities to live before the Lord greater by explaining to others that these things are acceptable.
Prayer:
Dear Jesus, we come before You, lifting up Pwenel and their situation. We pray for Your divine intervention in their visa process and financial struggles. Help them to trust in You completely, and as an example to others who may face similar circumstance.
Open the financial doors that needs to be opened for them so they can start the marriage. Do not allow this marriage to be done as if it were a business affair or to cause others to stumble.
We also pray for their future marriage which Christ is apart of, and that all obstacles may be removed. What you two started together but may not mean that you two should be together forever until this gets corrected. You must both make the choices that lead YOU to Christ. We pray for this in Jesus' name. Which ways of the each self seem right, but together both seem right when they appear to be right. Which partner is the stronger example of Jesus and for whom will both be best receive the Lord.
Your actions Pwenel must be quickly corrected. Any allowance on this path may encourage others to this same behavior.
I also wonder that the grace of Jesus may be so well with your our behavior events not be to ourselves and that all non-believers should reject us for infamous rather than believers who actually gain because our behaavior is correct.