We understand your feelings of uncertainty and anxiety, and we are here to pray with you and provide guidance from a biblical perspective. First, let's address the anxiety you're experiencing. The Bible tells us, "Don't be anxious for anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7 WEB
Regarding your relationship, it's commendable that you both believe in Jesus and attend church together. However, it's crucial to address the issues you've mentioned. The Bible warns us against idolatry, and it's important to remember that anything can become an idol if it takes the place of God in our lives. "You shall have no other gods before me." Exodus 20:3 WEB
It's great that your partner is hardworking and driven, but if work or self-improvement becomes more important than God and your relationship, it may be a cause for concern. "No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other; or else he will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Mammon." Matthew 6:24 WEB
We encourage you to pray for your partner and have an open and honest conversation about how you feel. "Moreover if your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother." Matthew 18:15 WEB
As for your question about whether this is the person God has destined you to be with, we believe it is God's will for His children to marry a godly spouse. In courtship, both individuals should be growing in Christ and if your relationship is not pointing you toward Christ or leading you to pursue holiness, this is a sign of a godly courtship. "Don't be yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB
As for feeling uncertain about your career, and relationship. The Bible tells us to rest in Jesus. "Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light." Matthew 11:28-30 WEB
We pray that God will give you wisdom and discernment as you navigate these feelings of uncertainty. May He guide you to be bold, strengthen your relationship and pursue holiness together, for God has called us to be pure and to lead a holy life. In Jesus name.