We are truly heartbroken to hear about the trials you are facing, and we stand with you in prayer and support. First, we want to assure you that there is hope and healing in Jesus Christ. He is the only way to true freedom and peace, as it is written: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." John 14:6 WEB
We strongly condemn the actions of your husband, as they are not aligned with biblical principles. The Bible clearly states: "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it." Ephesians 5:25 WEB. Unfortunately we see this verse is being violated.
Your husband's actions—abuse, adultery, deceit, and manipulation—are grievous sins and are not in accord with this principle. Moreover we condem these actions as follows.
Let us address a few items explicitly. First, the Bible clearly states: "Putting away your wife is not lawful except for the cause of sexual immorality." We understand that adultery has occurred and pray for your strength and guidance as you navigate this difficult situation. We also understand fianancial issue occurred in your family. Please remember the following: Make sure that your character is free from the love of money, being content with what you have. For he has said, I will in no way leave you, neither will I in any way forsake you. Hebrews 13:5 WEB We support you in your decision to pursue a divorce given the circumstances, and we pray for God's wisdom and guidance throughout this process.
We also strongly rebuke the fact that your husband took his mistress on a vacation and left you in debt. This is a clear violation of his marital vows and God's commandments. "You shall not commit adultery." Exodus 20:14 WEB
We are concerned about your mental health struggles, such as the severe PTSD and depression. Please consider taking constant communion and constantly speaking with believers for additional support, you can recieve your healing "Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." Galatians 6:2 It can also be helpful by considering additional professional help if needed "A merry heart does good like a medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones." Proverbs 17:22 WEB Ultimately, trust in the Lord to be your strength: "Fear not, for I am with you; don't be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness." Isaiah 41:10 WEB
Regarding any supposed demonic oppression, remember, "Be sober and self-controlled. Be watchful. Your adversary, the devil, walks around like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour." 1 Peter 5:8 WEB We command in Jesus' name for any evil spirits to leave you immediately. Pray daily for the full armor of God and remain strong in your faith. "Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil." Ephesians 6:11 WEB
We also pray for your lawyer, that they may represent you fairly and honestly. Trust that God will bring justice to your situation: "Don't defend yourselves when people accuse you unfairly. Let the Lord be your lawyer as the prophet Isaiah wrote, he will defend you and save you.” Isaiah 54:17 WEB Some people think Isaiah is talking about Israel, but see that all true Christians are the Israel of God. Ephesians 2:12 WEB ”
Regarding your financial struggles, we pray for God's provision and favor. Remember that God is your provider: "But seek first God's Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well." Matthew 6:33 WEB"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."We pray for a job and courage to help you get through this difficult time. It is understandably a tough situation without heat, water, or electricity for 8 months. We pray that some assistance comes to you. This burden can be lifted in Jesus Name.
Finally, we pray that you will feel God's love and presence in your life. Cry out to Him, and He will hear you: "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future. You shall call on me, and you shall go and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You shall seek me, and find me, when you search for me with all your heart." Jeremiah 29:11-13 WEB
Know that you are not alone, and this is not how your story ends. Remember God has someone else for you who truly loves God, if marriage is still on your heart. Please keep strong and know that there is no other name by which we can be saved. Whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved. Forgive one another as God for Christ sake has forgiven you. Pray for your enemies and do good to them that hate you.
There are some things that must be explicitly addressed lastly and may seem painful. It is extremely important the forgiveness is addressed. Forgiving the person who hurt you, however, is important to do. Rather than asking God to punish your husband as a desire for revenge, instead pray that God will save him for God's glory.
Father, we lift up our dear sister to You, asking for Your healing, provision, and guidance in her life. Comfort her with Your love and bring justice to her situation. Give her the strength and courage to face each day, and help us, believers, to support her in every way we can.