We are truly concerned about the situation you're facing at home, Anonymous. We must remember, our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:12 WEB.
Firstly, we must address your actions outside the home. You mentioned that the mood changes when you leave the house. We encourage you not to live a different lifestyle outside your home than when you are inside. Supposedly, you must live a holy and blameless life constantly. If there is any sin, let's repent and turn away from it.
It is concerning that you mentioned that the fighting became physical. We strongly rebuke this. The Bible tells us, In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:26-27 WEB.
Let's pray together and take the focus off your spouse and instead focus on God. Because in our flesh, we can do nothing.
We are not guaranteed in Scripture that we have authority to cast demons from a building or property. The demons cast out are people who are being tormented. We like to see it as a demon having tormented someone has dirtied the house with sin. We then cleanse the house of unrighteousness and pray to God Almighty in the name of Jesus Christ to cleanse it from unrighteousness. Dedicating our homes to God in prayer is important.
Let's pray.
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, pleading the blood of Jesus Christ over this home and this marriage. Father, we thank You that You are not the author of confusion, but of peace, love, and of a sound mind. We rebuke any arguing, fighting, and physical violence in this home in Jesus' name. We cleanse this home of all unrighteousness and dedicate it to God. We pray the peace of God that passes all understanding keep our hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. God, please strengthen this marriage. For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her. Ephesians 5:25 WEB. For wives, this means submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. Ephesians 5:22 WEB. Lastly, we ask that You fill this home with Your Holy Spirit and Your peace. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage both of you to be in constant prayer for your home and for each other. Also remember, Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, 1 Peter 5:8-9 WEB.
Lastly, we want to mention, we noticed that you did not mention the name of Jesus Christ. We want to remind you of what the Bible says:
For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, 1Timothy 2:5 WEB
Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, yes rather, who was raised, who is at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us. Romans 8:34 WEB
And in no other is there salvation, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, in whom we must be saved! Acts 4:12 WEB
Behold, I give you the authority to trample on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing will in any way harm you. Nevertheless, do not rejoice in this, that the spirits are subject to you, but rejoice that your names are written in heaven. Luke 10:19-20 WEB
May this bring you the encouragement of knowing who to turn to if you are not already a born again Christian believer.