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Roy Michael Nel
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Dear spiritual brothers and sisters, I'm busy doing Dr. Caroline Leaf's Bible-based 21-Day Brain Detox Plan. If anybody knows anything about that Plan, I've got some issues in my love-life that regularly cause trouble and stop me from getting happily married. Take a look: There are many issues in my life that I'd like this Plan to address, but none more important and urgent as problems I'm having with socializing and relationships. I'm convinced this Plan will work to sort them out, but I need your help to identify toxic thoughts for the Plan to address. Something needs to be done about each of these. I'll number them each: 1. Diagnosed with high-functioning autism (Asperger's Syndrome) long before I started the Plan. 2. I'm frustrated that I'm so dependent on my mother and she still needs to “mother” a 44-year-old man! 3. I don't know what words and behaviour are appropriate for a platonic friendship, and I frequently behave like a married man in a platonic friendship because I'm fixated on getting married (well, just short of having sex which is meant for marriage). I think this is one of the things that's causing every lady I meet to dump me, and something needs to be done about it. 4. These days, I believe in moving into intimacy and marriage to a Christian lady at a slow pace, but as soon as I experience a lady being really friendly to me and giving me lots of attention – even in a platonic friendship – I begin to think she wants to progress to marriage with me and start to reciprocate a lot, spend a lot of money on her and be as nice as I possibly can to her, in a desperate and valiant effort to stop her from dumping me. In other words, I cling to her and I think this is also a major problem that drives the ladies away. 5. I believe that I'm a really great Christian guy who's never done anything to deserve getting dumped by a lady. If a lady dumps me, I lose confidence in my ability to maintain even a platonic friendship, let alone a happy, lifelong marriage which I've wanted all my life, and still don't have! 6. I get incredibly depressed, mopey and very hurt if I get dumped by a lady that I thought was a potential wife for me. If a lady decides to dump me for any reason, I'll be very hurt. Also, many times during a platonic friendship, ladies have dumped me at times when I've least expected them to dump me; when things appear to me to be going just fine. Then I'll be even more deeply hurt and depressed, and it'll be highly unlikely I'll ever speak to that lady again, let alone be platonic friends with her. I want marriage, and nothing less intimate! 7. My mother and other trusted friends and family have had to forcefully remove ladies out of my life because they can see – and I can't because of my high-functioning autism – that they'll all be a bad influence on me and they're only interested in robbing me of my possessions, and not interested in being happily married to me. So I'm frustrated that I'm also unable to detect people who would be a bad influence on my life, and by the time I do detect their ulterior motives, the damage has already been done and can't be fixed! 8. I wish I had the ability to stick with a lady right from first acquaintance to platonic friendship to a happy, lifelong marriage, and find a lady who would be interested and willing to stick with me for life as well. Question: How does this happen, and what should I do to make this happen? 9. I was married once, but then my Jewish, bipolar wife committed suicide. I think I'm still traumatized by this, and I frequently do things (I'll leave it to your imagination as to what I do) to try and bring back what I enjoyed while married. The problem is, I do things and think thoughts that do displease God! 10.Finally, my parents gave me this advice so many times that I must just “chill” and let God bring the ladies to me while I carry on with life. But I also believe that I can't just stay all alone at home, sleep during the day and expect God to send me my future wife to knock on my front door and say “Hi! I'd love to be platonic friends with you, and I'm interested in being your wife one day too!” Surely I'd have to place myself in a room full of ladies who would be interested in marrying me? I've never understood the concept of letting a lady fall naturally in love with me because then I fear no lady will fall in love with me and I'll die unmarried.
