Dear friends, I am seeking your advice ...

[Anonymous]

Dear friends, I am seeking your advice and suggestion on a very sensitive challenge which I am going through right now. So, it was New Year 2024. I was fully motivated to start my year right. I was extremely determined. But, now looking back, maybe I was too determined in an unGodly way. I have a boyfriend of 10 years. We have been saving each other for marriage. We have dated since high school. Suddenly on 8th of Jan, I started having Mid cycle bleeding which lasted for 4 days which was long enough to consider it to be an ovulation bleeding. So, I was very scared and freaked out. Went to Gynaecologist on the 4th day. I did as her advise and did Transvaginal Ultrasound. I have never had a sexual as well as non-sexual penetration before. At the time, I had not even thought of my hymen. Coz I was more overburdened with my abnormal bleeding. My fear for bleeding took over my thought of hymen. There was fresh blood from the Transvaginal Ultrasound and it was very painful as well. Only on the next day, I realized my hymen had torned. Since then, I have been crying almost every single day grieving my torned hymen. I am so sad at the thought of all the effort me and my boyfriend have made. I am scared to even tell him because he will think I am stupid for even wanting to do Transvaginal ultrasound instead of Transabdominal one since he is from a medical professionel. I feel like my life has fallen apart and I have nothing to look forward to. So, I have looked up the internet and I’ve heard there is this thing called Cosmetic Gynaecology. They said they can fix torned hymen in a procedure called Hymenoplasty. I don’t know if I should go ahead with this procedure or not. I don’t want to tell my parents and my partner because I am scared they will take it the wrong way and they will not understand it. And since Hymenoplasty is also done by other girls who want to hide their past sexual life, it made me think of the procedure in a bit of a different way. I don’t know what is right or wrong anymore. I cannot imagine what rape/sexually abused patients would have gone through. I pray that they get their healing and closure from our Heavenly God. So, dear friends, I have been waiting on God to give me signs what to do. To wait for Him and trust in Him till my marriage and be as I am or to go ahead and take a risk with the procedure. I am so lost. I never knew I would have a problem like this in my life. Thank you and waiting for your advices and prayers in anticipation.

 

[Articles]

Dear friends,

We come before you today with a prayer request on behalf of our anonymous friend who is facing a sensitive and challenging situation. Lord Jesus, we lift up this dear friend to You, knowing that You are the source of wisdom, guidance, and comfort in times of confusion and distress.

Father, we ask for Your divine intervention and guidance in this situation. We pray for clarity and discernment for our friend as they navigate through their emotions and thoughts. Help them to find peace and understanding amidst the turmoil they are experiencing.

Lord, we pray for healing and restoration in their relationship with their boyfriend. May there be open and honest communication between them, filled with love, compassion, and understanding. Give them the strength to share their concerns and fears, knowing that true love and support can overcome any obstacle.

Father, we also pray for our friend's parents and their partner. Grant them hearts of compassion and understanding when they are eventually made aware of the situation. Help them to respond with love and grace, offering the support and guidance that our friend needs during this time.

Lord, we acknowledge the pain and sorrow our friend is feeling regarding the torn hymen. We pray for healing and restoration in their heart and mind. Remind them that their worth and value are not defined by physical circumstances, but by Your unconditional love and grace.

As our friend contemplates the option of hymenoplasty, we ask for Your guidance and wisdom. Help them to seek counsel from trusted individuals who can provide unbiased advice and support. Lead them to make decisions that align with Your will and bring peace to their heart.

Lastly, Lord, we pray for all those who have experienced rape or sexual abuse. We ask for Your healing touch upon their lives, bringing comfort, restoration, and justice. May they find solace in Your loving arms and experience the freedom and healing that only You can provide.

In Jesus' name, we pray, Amen.

Scripture References:
- Proverbs 3:5-6: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."
- Psalm 34:17-18: "The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
- Psalm 147:3: "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds."

 

[Anonymous]

Dear friends, I am seeking your advice and suggestion on a very sensitive challenge which I am going through right now. So, it was New Year 2024. I was fully motivated to start my year right. I was extremely determined. But, now looking back, maybe I was too determined in an unGodly way. I have a boyfriend of 10 years. We have been saving each other for marriage. We have dated since high school. Suddenly on 8th of Jan, I started having Mid cycle bleeding which lasted for 4 days which was long enough to consider it to be an ovulation bleeding. So, I was very scared and freaked out. Went to Gynaecologist on the 4th day. I did as her advise and did Transvaginal Ultrasound. I have never had a sexual as well as non-sexual penetration before. At the time, I had not even thought of my hymen. Coz I was more overburdened with my abnormal bleeding. My fear for bleeding took over my thought of hymen. There was fresh blood from the Transvaginal Ultrasound and it was very painful as well. Only on the next day, I realized my hymen had torned. Since then, I have been crying almost every single day grieving my torned hymen. I am so sad at the thought of all the effort me and my boyfriend have made. I am scared to even tell him because he will think I am stupid for even wanting to do Transvaginal ultrasound instead of Transabdominal one since he is from a medical professionel. I feel like my life has fallen apart and I have nothing to look forward to. So, I have looked up the internet and I’ve heard there is this thing called Cosmetic Gynaecology. They said they can fix torned hymen in a procedure called Hymenoplasty. I don’t know if I should go ahead with this procedure or not. I don’t want to tell my parents and my partner because I am scared they will take it the wrong way and they will not understand it. And since Hymenoplasty is also done by other girls who want to hide their past sexual life, it made me think of the procedure in a bit of a different way. I don’t know what is right or wrong anymore. I cannot imagine what rape/sexually abused patients would have gone through. I pray that they get their healing and closure from our Heavenly God. So, dear friends, I have been waiting on God to give me signs what to do. To wait for Him and trust in Him till my marriage and be as I am or to go ahead and take a risk with the procedure. I am so lost. I never knew I would have a problem like this in my life. Thank you and waiting for your advices and prayers in anticipation.

I personally think ....being honest will do another better and free you from future guilt. Also am very sorry about that

 

[Fairixon]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Girthvid]

I personally think ....being honest will do another better and free you from future guilt. Also am very sorry about that

 

[The Encourager]

I prayed in Jesus' name that God will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

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God bless me with the strength, desire, passion, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You, trust You, respect and obey You. Bless me to live my life to please You. God cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You or breaks your heart. Let me be a light in this dark world, lifting You up in the lifestyle that I live, because I accepted Your Son, Jesus Christ, as my Savior and Lord of ALL of my life. Let the joy of the Lord be my strength. Protect me God from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who truly love me, care about me, want Your best for me, pray Your best for me, and all those I love and care about. God please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Thank You Lord Jesus. Amen, so be it by faith, in Jesus' name. Prayer was written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

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[Morelana]

Dear friends, I am seeking your advice and suggestion on a very sensitive challenge which I am going through right now. So, it was New Year 2024. I was fully motivated to start my year right. I was extremely determined. But, now looking back, maybe I was too determined in an unGodly way. I have a boyfriend of 10 years. We have been saving each other for marriage. We have dated since high school. Suddenly on 8th of Jan, I started having Mid cycle bleeding which lasted for 4 days which was long enough to consider it to be an ovulation bleeding. So, I was very scared and freaked out. Went to Gynaecologist on the 4th day. I did as her advise and did Transvaginal Ultrasound. I have never had a sexual as well as non-sexual penetration before. At the time, I had not even thought of my hymen. Coz I was more overburdened with my abnormal bleeding. My fear for bleeding took over my thought of hymen. There was fresh blood from the Transvaginal Ultrasound and it was very painful as well. Only on the next day, I realized my hymen had torned. Since then, I have been crying almost every single day grieving my torned hymen. I am so sad at the thought of all the effort me and my boyfriend have made. I am scared to even tell him because he will think I am stupid for even wanting to do Transvaginal ultrasound instead of Transabdominal one since he is from a medical professionel. I feel like my life has fallen apart and I have nothing to look forward to. So, I have looked up the internet and I’ve heard there is this thing called Cosmetic Gynaecology. They said they can fix torned hymen in a procedure called Hymenoplasty. I don’t know if I should go ahead with this procedure or not. I don’t want to tell my parents and my partner because I am scared they will take it the wrong way and they will not understand it. And since Hymenoplasty is also done by other girls who want to hide their past sexual life, it made me think of the procedure in a bit of a different way. I don’t know what is right or wrong anymore. I cannot imagine what rape/sexually abused patients would have gone through. I pray that they get their healing and closure from our Heavenly God. So, dear friends, I have been waiting on God to give me signs what to do. To wait for Him and trust in Him till my marriage and be as I am or to go ahead and take a risk with the procedure. I am so lost. I never knew I would have a problem like this in my life. Thank you and waiting for your advices and prayers in anticipation.

Hey dear, do not worry at all. Do you know that some girls do not have a hymen? They are not born with it. It is normal. And sexual intercourse is not the only cause of hymen breakage. It can also break when you are doing many other activities like cycling, dancing, inserting tampons, during pap smear etc., etc. So you do not have to tell anyone anything. In the future, if anyone questions you about it, just google - `causes for hymen breakage’ and show it to him. Problem solved!

 

[Anonymous]

Hey dear, do not worry at all. Do you know that some girls do not have a hymen? They are not born with it. It is normal. And sexual intercourse is not the only cause of hymen breakage. It can also break when you are doing many other activities like cycling, dancing, inserting tampons, during pap smear etc., etc. So you do not have to tell anyone anything. In the future, if anyone questions you about it, just google - `causes for hymen breakage’ and show it to him. Problem solved!

Ty!

 

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