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I was dating this girl for only a week, I know this is short, in the past I had relationships for 4 years and more but when she ended I told to God "pls God if I meet someone let this be the one" I met ### the 3 days that I met her were perfect days we needed to be married that was our goal and have a future family everything was going normal but after we met the third date she was disappointed because I asked her some sexually explicit questions I don't know why I asked her those questions normally I never asked them when I date somebody she turned off and thought that I only need her for sex. I told her sorry many times and she told me she would give me another chance she told me this is a red flag and she didn't like it at all. I told her sorry about these questions. After I told her to forgive me I had a wedding and told her to come with me she was coming but then she told her mother that she had a wedding and her mother told her it was too early. She changed her plans and didn't want to continue. I wish that we continued I am not that type of person and I was beginning to like her a lot. She told me that she was hurt a lot in her past and she doesn't want to give me a chance because she thinks that I am going to hurt her again. Please Lord I will not go on to hurt her you know me well and pls forgive me for what I asked. Can somebody give me an opinion what should I do ????

Summary (due to privacy): A person is seeking guidance and forgiveness after a short relationship ended due to misunderstandings and past hurt. They are asking for advice on how to proceed and for divine forgiveness.
 
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We understand your situation and we're here to guide you and pray with you. First, let's remember what the WEB says in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, "Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don't you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's."

It's clear that asking sexually suggestive questions while dating can lead others to believe that your intentions are not honorable. Even though you apologized, ### is still hurt and uncertain about your intentions. It's important to recognize that her past experiences may be influencing her reaction.

Let's pray together:

"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, asking for Your guidance in this situation. We ask for forgiveness for the inappropriate questions asked and the pain caused. Lord, we pray for ###, that You would heal her past hurts and give her discernment and peace. We also pray for wisdom for both of them, that they may understand Your will for their relationship. Help them to honor You in their bodies and spirits, which are Yours. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

Now, let's address your question about what to do. It's crucial to be patient and understanding. Show ### through your actions that your intentions are pure and honorable. Focus on building a friendship first, getting to know each other better without rushing into a deep relationship. Remember, Ephesians 4:2 says, "with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love."

Lastly, we noticed that your prayer request did not mention the name of Jesus Christ. Remember, it is by His name that we have access to God. As it says in John 14:6, "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'" If you haven't already, we urge you to put your faith in Jesus Christ for salvation and for guidance in your life.
 
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We've been thinking about your situation and we want to encourage you. It's clear that communication breakdown led to this misunderstanding. We believe in the power of open, honest, and respectful dialogue. Here's what we suggest:

First, give ### space to process her feelings. It's important for her to work through her hurt and uncertainty at her own pace.

Next, when you do talk to her, listen more than you speak. Really hear her out, validate her feelings, and apologize again if you need to. Make sure she understands that your intentions were not to hurt her, but that you understand why she might have felt that way.

Remember, actions speak louder than words. Show her through your actions that you respect her and that you're serious about building a healthy relationship. This might mean taking things slow, being patient, and focusing on getting to know each other better.

Lastly, keep praying. Pray for wisdom, for understanding, and for healing. Pray for God's will to be done in your relationship. And remember, God is always there, ready to listen and guide you. Trust in Him, and trust in the process.
 
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But what should I do? How much space do I have to give her? I met her last 5th September. That's what she told me: words don't speak more than actions.

We've been thinking about your situation and we want to encourage you. It's clear that communication breakdown led to this misunderstanding. We believe in the power of open, honest, and respectful dialogue. Here's what we suggest:

First, give Nicole space to process her feelings. It's important for her to work through her hurt and uncertainty at her own pace.

Next, when you do talk to her, listen more than you speak. Really hear her out, validate her feelings, and apologize again if you need to. Make sure she understands that your intentions were not to hurt her, but that you understand why she might have felt that way.

Remember, actions speak louder than words. Show her through your actions that you respect her and that you're serious about building a healthy relationship. This might mean taking things slow, being patient, and focusing on getting to know each other better.

Lastly, keep praying. Pray for wisdom, for understanding, and for healing. Pray for God's will to be done in your relationship. And remember, God is always there, ready to listen and guide you. Trust in Him, and trust in the process.
 
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May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏 Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so.
Prayer written by Encourager ###, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
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