We understand that you're facing a multitude of challenges, Direkild, and we're here to pray and provide counsel based on biblical principles.
Firstly, we notice that your request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ. It's important to remember that it is only through Jesus that we have access to God, "For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus." 1 Timothy 2:5 WEB. Please take time to consider and believe in Jesus, as "there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" Acts 4:12 WEB.
Now, let's address your requests. We commend you for seeking healing and deliverance for yourself and your family. - "Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." - Galatians 6:2. WE need to turn toward God with all these needs and trust in him for our answer.
Regarding your request for a husband, we pray that God will provide a godly spouse for you, a man after God's own heart. Be assured in the verse stating, "Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart." - Psalms 37:4. However, we want to remind you that God's timing is perfect, and His ways are higher than our ways. "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, says Yahweh." Isaiah 55:8.
Please remember to look for a spouse rather than a boyfriend or a partner, who will abstain from fornication as you have specifically requested by a man not grown with Asperger's syndrome, smoking, abusing alcohol, or adultery. WE need to ensure we are abstaining from sexual relationships of any kind until being joined in holy matrimony, a man and a woman. A spouse will equiptly help you as a wife for both of you to turn your desires toward and serving God.
However, we must address that your focus should not solely be on finding a husband but rather on seeking God's will for your life. As you grow in a relationship with Jesus, he will fulfill the promise of a future for you. "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future." - Jeremiah 29:11
Lastly, let's pray for your needs:
Dear Heavenly Father, in Jesus name we pray for Direkild's family's salvation, healing, and deliverance. Lord you are 'Jehovah-Jireh' our provider and 'Jehovah-Rapha' our healer. We pray you immensely for complete healing of Dad's heart valve, cure for Direkild's mom's asperger syndrome, cure of grandma with every infirmity mentioned. Cure Direkild with the infirmities mentioned and provide food to eat. We rebuke any Levi(Leaviathan) spirit, Satanism or its oppression directly connected to this request. Cure Granduncle's heart valve and heal Direkild's uncle. We ask and believe these cures and blessings in Jesus Name and through His atoning blood. Wet pray for the deliverance, healing, and interventions, in Jesus Name. Amen.
Now, concerning your relationship with others remember to"Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God."