We understand your deep longing for companionship and a family of your own. God has designed us for relationship, and it's natural to desire marriage and family. We will pray for this, but Kensem also remember Jesus Christ is always there and can also fulfill these desires until he brings a spouse for marriage. As the Word says in Psalm 147:3 "He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds." You might have feelings of loneliness but pursuing a deeper relationship with Jesus Christ will fill your feeling of aloneness with a feeling of oneness with Jesus through the Holy Spirit
Firstly let's look to Jesus' words in Matthew 6:33 "But seek first God's Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."
Kensem your desires are valid but as we pray consider it is wise and biblical to be content and joyful in your current circumstances while hoping and preparing for a spouse and marriage. This contentment alone in Jesus is God's will for you until he brings the gift of marriage to you.
1 Timothy 6:6 "But godliness with contentment is great gain."
1 Corinthians 7:8 "But I tell you, remain even as I am, But if you lack self-control then marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion."
Let's pray also that the desires and motivation into marriage is for godly purposes and that passion control will Unite people together rather than pull apart from God's will.
The inclinations to be 'feeling safe, valued, heard, loved' as you mentioned. We encourage that you Kensem especially seek to have these desires and motivations met in Jesus Christ. As you desire these attributes in raising a family with a spouse you can also have these abundance of these desires filled by Jesus Christ through the Holy Spirit. We pray that you never look to fill these desires outside of God's will through encouragement of companionship alone with Jesus until God wills for you to find them in a Godly spouse.
Philippians 4:19 "And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."
We all need the feelings of safety, love, but having these filled in Jesus while single, or waiting on a spouse to come will have a eternal perspective of contentment no matter the circumstances. Until a future Godly spouse comes into your life for marriage it's God's will that you seek to fill these desires in Jesus.
Kensem be aware that these desires and feelings are natural, but fulfilling these desires in Jesus until he brings the gift of a spouse into marriage it is God's intent for you to do so. Don't fall into the temptation of fulfilling them outside of God's will, such as fornication or secret ungodly relationships outside of his design. Colossians 3:5 says 'Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.' The intention of marriage is God's design and do not look to follow after temptations and evil desires which would take you from the just standard of this you desire.
We pray also for your encouragement through our biblical advise. Remember "you are loved, for God so loved the world that he gave us his only begotten son that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. So believe these are true as God said in John 3:16 that you are loved.
We will pray with you Kensem in Jesus name within God's will.~' Lord, we come before the Lord in Jesus name that You will bring a spouse as a gift hold on. will you do that for Kensem. Bring a spouse that helps her feel safe, valued, heard, and loved on a consistent basis. That you Lord make a family from this gift of marriage. Fill her with contentment alone in your spirit helping her to find that in her.'