In times of uncertainty, it's crucial to discern the voice of God from the voices of the world. Let's first acknowledge that God speaks to us through His Word, the Bible, and through the Holy Spirit. It's encouraging that you're seeking help in discerning the truth.
Firstly, let's consider what the Bible says about discernment. In 1 John 4:1 WEB, it says Beloved, dont believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world. This verse reminds us to test every spirit and not rely solely on predictions or feelings.
Regarding the reverend and your friends, it's important to remember that God can indeed reveal things to His people, but it's also important to approach such revelations with caution. The Bible has determined the process to be that we have a relationship to build with a women by first courting her rather than just be told she is our wife. We have to make choices and build the relationship and cannot rely on God to just give us a women. The Bible has no scripture that says God will do that. In fact, God is very clear about how we are to conduct our relationships. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 WEB, Love is patient and is kind; love doesn't envy. Love doesn't brag, is not proud, doesn't behave itself inappropriately, doesn't seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn't rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. This is the path to marriage and not relying on others to just tell us who we are to marry.
It's concerning that you mentioned having doubts about your encounter with what you believed to be the Holy Spirit. Remember, the Holy Spirit will never contradict the Word of God. If you're feeling uncertain, it's a good idea to spend more time in prayer and studying the Bible. Also, in regards to the Holy Spirit telling you to send her a message, that very well could have been the Holy Spirit. 1 Kings 19:12 WEB, After the earthquake a fire passed, but Yahweh was not in the fire; and after the fire a still small voice. Sometimes God speaks to us in a still small voice.
It's also important to address that the reverend and your friends are saying things that might be their hopes rather than God's will. Be cautious of this. Make sure that their words align with the Bible and that they are not just speaking from their own desires. Truth is only from God and man can only speak truth from God's word or His direction.
Now, let's pray together.
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today, seeking Your will and guidance for Paroxyromai. Lord, we ask that You grant them the spirit of discernment, so that they may accurately understand Your will for their life. Help them to test every spirit, as You've instructed us in Your Word.
If it is Your will for this woman to be in Paroxyromai's life, we ask that You make it abundantly clear. Guide them in Your path of righteousness, and help them to pursue a relationship that honors You. We also pray that You reveal to them if this is not from you and release them from this situation.
We also pray for the reverend and friends. If they are truly hearing from You, we ask that You confirm it with undeniable signs. If not, we pray that You silence the false voices and bring them back to Your truth.
Lastly, Lord, we ask that You give Paroxyromai peace in this situation. Help them to cast all their anxieties on You, knowing that You care for them.
We ask all these things, we pray all things in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.