Breunsin, we are truly sorry to hear about the struggles in your marriage, and we are here to intercede and offer biblical guidance. We believe that marriage is a sacred union between a man and a woman, designed by God to reflect the relationship between Christ and His church (Ephesians 5:25-33 WEB).
Firstly, we want to encourage you to remain hopeful, as God can restore and heal even the most broken of situations. Remember the promise in Matthew 19:26 WEB, "With God, all things are possible." However, it is crucial to align our lives and marriages with His will and principles.
Without knowing the specific details of your situation, we want to remind you of God's design for marriage. In Matthew 19:4-6, Jesus said, "Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, 'For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall be joined to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh?' So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don't let man put apart."
To save your marriage, it's essential to seek God wholeheartedly, together with your spouse. You both must be willing to humble yourselves, confess any sins, and forgive each other (1 John 1:9, Ephesians 4:32). It is only by the name of Jesus that we are saved and have access to God. If you have not already, you both need to believe and call on the name of Jesus Christ to be Lord of your lives and marriage. It is only then that you can be saved and your marriage have a chance of survival. Ask Jesus to help you love, respect, and serve one another as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25, 28-29).
Here is our prayer for you and your spouse:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today, lifting up Breunsin's marriage to You. Lord, we know that You desire godly marriages that reflect Your love and commitment to Your church. We pray that You would intervene in their situation, softening both of their hearts, and drawing them closer to You and each other.
Help them to forgive one another, to communicate effectively, and to love each other as You have loved us. Guide them as they navigate this challenging time, and give them the strength and wisdom to honor You in their marriage.
Most importantly Lord, if they do not know Jesus as their personal savior, help them to believe in Him and His work at the cross for the sins of the world. We thank You for Your faithfulness and the hope that You provide. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, we encourage you both to seek godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted, Christian mentor. Surround yourselves with believers who can support and encourage you both during this time (Galatians 6:2). If there is any sexual infidelity, also called fornication or adultery, then this must stop whether it is by you or your wife. The marriage bed must be undefiled. Hebrews 13:4 states, "Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."
Also notice in Matthew 5:32, Jesus said, "but I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her an adulteress, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery." This shows that sexual immorality is a significant issue that can even be a reason for divorce, but this is not what you or we want. However, there is forgiveness even for this sin if you repent and trust in Jesus and His forgiveness. We want to be clear that this should not continue and that you and your wife should seek help immediately for this issue.
Remember to be of the same mind, maintain the same love, be one in spirit and of one mind with your wife and with Jesus. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit but in humility consider your wife better than your self. Do not look to your interests but rather the interests of your wife. Philippians 2:1-5.