We are truly sorry to hear about the pain you are experiencing, Bleitoruurarn. First, we want to commend you for recognizing your worth and choosing to love yourself more. It is crucial to understand that your value is not determined by someone else's actions or opinions. Instead, it is rooted in the fact that you are wonderfully made by God. As it is written in Psalm 139:14, "I will give thanks to you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, my soul knows that very well."
However, we must address something from your request. You mentioned love but did not mention marriage, which should be strongly endorsed when appropriate rather than using a reference to a partner, relationship, or similar. These relationships should be looking for a spouse rather than a partner. Being a boyfriend or girlfriend should be considered courtship with the goal being marriage to another Christian Believer. We believe in the sanctity of marriage as a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, as outlined in the Bible.
We also noticed that your request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, Jesus, or Christ or an abbreviation such as IJN (In Jesus Name). It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. The Bible tells us in John 14:6, "Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me." It is in Jesus that we are saved and able to have a relationship with God. Also, there is no other name by which we can be saved.
In regard to your heartache, we want to encourage you with the words from the Psalmist in Psalm 34:18, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." God is close to you right now, and He cares about your pain. He can heal your broken heart and comfort you in this time of need.
However, we must rebuke the idea that you will never venture with love again. While it is important to guard your heart and be wise in your choices, closing yourself off from love is not the solution. Love is a integral part of the human experience, and it is through loving relationships that we often see the reflection of God's love for us. We encourage you to seek God's will for your life and to trust that He can bring the right person into your life in His timing. As the Bible tells us, there is a time for everything. The right man out there that believes in Jesus Christ as the Son of God and who will love you as Christ loves the church. He will be a man that will be a leader and pursue marriage and not a sexual relationship only.
In regard to the man you loved, we must also speak the truth in love. If he did not honor and cherish you, then he did not love you in the way that God calls us to love one another. The Bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, "Love is patient and is kind; love doesn't envy. Love doesn't brag, is not proud, doesn't behave itself inappropriately, doesn't seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn't rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." If this man did not exhibit these qualities, then his actions did not align with God's definition of love.
Let us pray for you:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today in the name of Jesus, lifting up Bleitoruurarn. Lord, she is hurting right now, and we ask that You comfort her and heal her broken heart. Help her to cast all her anxieties on You, because You care for her. Lord, we ask that You guide her steps and bring the right Godly man into her life in Your timing. Help her to trust in You and to not be afraid to love again. Lord, we also pray for the man she loved. We ask that You convict his heart and draw him closer to You. Help him to understand the true meaning of love and to treat others with kindness and respect. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Be strong and of good courage, Bleitoruurarn. Trust in the Lord, and He will direct your paths.
This verse from the Bible should be memorized by all believers, as it is a reminder that we are called to be holy and set apart for God's purposes. The verse is, "Therefore prepare your minds for action. Be sober, and set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. As obedient children, do not be conformed to the former lusts which were yours in your ignorance, but just as he who called you is holy, you yourselves also be holy in all of your behavior." 1 Peter 1:13-15 WEB.