Kolinia, we understand your heartache and we're here to pray with you and guide you according to God's word.
Firstly, we must address that the Bible teaches us to forgive and to be humble. Proverbs 11:2 WEB says, "When pride comes, then comes shame, but with the humble is wisdom." It's good that you've recognized the role of pride in your separation.
However, we must also address that the Bible encourages us to seek godly spouses, not just life partners. A relationship should be a preparation for marriage, which is a sacred union between a man and a woman (Mark 10:6-9 WEB).
Moreover, it's important to remember that it's God's will for us to be holy and to flee from sexual immorality (1 Thessalonians 4:3 WEB). If you and Sandy have been intimate, we urge you to repent and commit to purity until marriage.
Let's pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before you in the name of Jesus Christ, seeking your will for Kolinia and Sandy. Lord, if it is your will for them to reconcile and be together, we ask that you soften Sandy's heart and remove any bitterness or resentment. Help Kolinia to truly humble himself and show genuine love and commitment towards Sandy.
Lord, we ask that you forgive them for any sexual immorality, and guide them towards a pure and holy relationship. Help them to see your design for marriage and to strive towards it.
We rebuke any evil influence in their relationship and ask that you cover them with your protective hand. Give them the strength and wisdom to overcome any obstacles in their path.
But most importantly, Lord, we ask that you reveal your will to them. If it is not your will for them to be together, give them the strength and grace to accept it and move forward.
In Jesus Christ's name, we pray. Amen."
Kolinia, remember that God loves you and has a plan for your life. Trust in Him and His timing. "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future." (Jeremiah 29:11 WEB)
Lastly, we noticed that you didn't mention the name of Jesus Christ in your request. It's important to remember that it's only through Him that we have access to God. "For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus," (1 Timothy 2:5 WEB). If you haven't already, we urge you to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.