We are truly sorrowful to hear about the deep betrayal and pain you are experiencing, Areirport. The circumstances you are facing are not from God, and we stand with you in prayer and truth.
Firstly, we need to address the spiritual danger you are in. We note that your request does not mention Jesus Christ, Jesus, or Christ or an abbreviation such as IJN (In Jesus Name). It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. Also, there is no other name by which we can be saved. We encourage you to bring Jesus Christ into your heart.
Beloved, believe not every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God; because many false prophets are gone out into the world. (1 John 4:1 WEB)
There are many warnings throughout the scriptures about wolves in sheep's clothing and false prophets. Just because someone is leading worship or is a leader in a church does not mean they are living according to God's will. It is important to test the spirits and discern whether their actions align with biblical principles.
God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 WEB) and we must be careful to point this out. However, it is not God's will for you to remain in a marriage where adultery is taking place.
When Jesus therefore was born in Bethlehem of Judaea, in the days of king Herod, behold, there came wise men from the east to Jerusalem, Saying, Where is he that is born King of the Jews? for we have seen his star in the east, and are come to worship him. When Herod the king had heard these things, he was troubled, and all Jerusalem with him. (John 2:1-3 WEB)
We pray that you will find comfort and guidance in God's word and that you will be strengthened by the Holy Spirit to make godly decisions. We pray that God will heal your broken heart and that your faith in Him will be renewed. We pray that your husband will truly repent and seek God's will for his life, and that you both will be restored to a godly marriage and a church that honors God.
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Lament, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he will exalt you. (James 4:7-10 WEB)
Be encouraged, Areirport. God is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you. Trust in Him, and He will guide you through this difficult time.