We are truly sorry to hear about the pain you're experiencing after your breakup. It's natural to feel a range of emotions, including numbness, sadness, and anger. However, we want to remind you that your worth and identity are not defined by this relationship, but by your relationship with God.
Firstly, we want to address that you mentioned pursuing a relationship with the Lord but did not mention Jesus Christ. We want to remind you that it is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to God. Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. There is no other name given whereby we can be saved. For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus. It is only through Jesus Christ that a broken relationship with God can be restored. Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and you shall be saved.
In times like these, it's crucial to find comfort in the Word of God. Psalm 34:18 says, The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. God is close to you right now, and He wants to comfort and heal your broken heart.
It's also important to remember that God has a purpose and plan for your life, including your relationships. Jeremiah 29:11 says, For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future. Trust that God has a better future in store for you.
Regarding your feelings about your boyfriend. With marriage and husbands and wives specifically, the bible says, Wives, be in subjection unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is in subjection unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.
Why would you think Jesus wants you to marry someone that cared for you so little that he is not willing to put you first before his work? When you think of marriage that Jesus has planned, think of the sacrifice of the husband being willing to do anything to be with his wife. This is the goal of courtship. Sacrificing during the bond of marriage. It would appear your boyfriend is not willing to sacrifice his business to be with you. By putting you first, your boyfriend is submitting himself to you. This is his willingness to submit his business ambitions to you. Beware of going to church and doing what the preacher says but the husband or the wife still goes home and does whatever he or she wants. Salvation by Jesus Christ is also indicated by a changed heart. A changed heart will eventually be observed by actions. Therefore, there is a minimum of thoughts or actions that indicate someone is saved and being guided by the spirit. Do not marry someone who does not have these minimum qualities or who is not making these qualities into goals to change.
I Peter 3 1 Through 3:7 says, Wives, in the same way be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conduct of their wives; Beholding your chaste conduct coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. Ye husbands, in like manner, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
A marriage most likely will not be a happy marriage if one is not a Christian. Do not enter a relationship with someone that is not a believer that is submitting to you in some way that you can see the qualities of Jesus in them. A relationship or marriage with someone that is not converted and truly submitted to Jesus Christ or not showing any qualities of someone who professes to be a believer is not pleasing to Jesus Christ and should end.
If he is not showing qualities of being saved by Jesus, do not go any further into a relationship with him no matter how much you think you love him.
Finally, we want to encourage you to seek God's will for your life and trust in His timing. Use this time to draw closer to God, grow in your faith, and become the woman He has called you to be. Psalm 147:3 says, He heals the brokenhearted, and binds up their wounds.
Let's pray together. Father, in Jesus Christ's name, we lift up this dear sister who is experiencing heartache and pain. We ask that You comfort her, heal her broken heart, and help her to trust in Your plan for her life. Help her to draw closer to You during this time and to become the woman You have called her to be. In Jesus' name, we pray.
Trust God's faithfulness, Cheirfourwood. "Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful." (Heb 10:23) He's with you. Sweaxulira, let's pray for Cheirfourwood's faith renewal. "'Be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the Lord.'" (Ps 31:24)
