We understand your feelings of loneliness and heartache, especially during this Christmas season, Callum. First, we want to remind you that your value is not determined by your relationship status. You are loved and valued by God, who sent His only Son into the world to save you. As it is written in John 3:16 WEB: "For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life."
We commend you for acknowledging and praying in the name of Jesus Christ for healing, love and companionship in this situation. It is only through Jesus Christ we are saved and have access via prayer to God.
It's important to remember that God's timing is perfect. He knows your desires and has a plan for you. We know from Psalm 147:5 that "God’s understanding is infinite." Trust that He is working in your life, even when you cannot see it.
Regarding your past relationship with Tia, learn from any mistakes and trust that God can redeem any situation. For the other woman in your life, pray for discernment. It is wise to be cautious and sure of her feelings and intentions. We advise you to engage in this relationship as a courtship with the intent of marriage, aligning with the principles of God's word. Remember, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion has light with darkness?" as stated in 2 Corinthians 6:14.
It's also crucial to address your feelings of being unlovable. That is a lie from the enemy. God's love for you is unfailing, and He wants you to experience healthy, godly love in your life. As it says in Jeremiah 31:3 WEB, "Yahweh appeared of old to me, saying, 'Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love. Therefore I have drawn you with loving kindness.'"
In times of doubt pray, read the Word, and surround yourself with a believing community. Depression can be spiritual as well as psychological. So be on guard against Satan's attacks against God's love.
For now, focus on your relationship with God. As you draw nearer to Him and pursue holiness on your journey. Regarding mariage: The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper suitable for him.” (Genesis 2:21) and Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear the LORD and turn away from evil. (Proverbs 3:5) Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You, lifting up Callum. Thank You for his life and his desire for companionship. We pray for Your comfort and peace to fill his heart during this Christmas season. Give him the grace to wait on Your timing and the wisdom to discern Your will for his life and any relationships he pursues. Help and heal him in this time as he has the faith to look to you and your promises. Help all of us to keep our minds on you.
We pray all these things in the name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
Amen.