Am I being selfish

Brokennlost2 · 2025-01-18T20:27:58-0600

My grandson Izaak will be graduating from high school this year and going on to college in our area for 2 years before transferring to university. I’m so proud of him . He had planned to keep living with me for the 2 years before he goes off to university. But now he found out the college by us has apartment housing in campus and wants to stay there, he says he has to because he has to help people and living with me he’s limited, but he won’t say what he means by that. All I know is that he hasn’t been hanging around with good friends and some he feels he has to help or that they need him but the thing is that I also need him, I’m disabled and need help with some things or tasks that I can’t do , I can’t walk that God and he helps me so much, I don’t want to be selfish and tell him not to go but I feel he’s going for the wrong reasons because he says he doesn’t want to go but that he has to. It’s hard for me to talk to him because I’m very emotional. My other grandkids also live with me, his siblings but he is the one that most helps me and the only one that actually shows he cares about me. Other than the time he wasn’t talking to me for misunderstanding but we worked through that. I am so hurt he is leaving in a few months, I can’t imagine him not being here. I worry and the campus dorms don’t have a good reputation. I pray to God to please tell me what to do but in my heart something about him leaving seems wrong. He has to wait to see if he’s approved for on campus housing, an I being selfish or wrong to hope he changes his mind or hopes he doesn’t get approved? I need guidance because I love him so much that I want him to be happy but I really wish he’d stay at home for his 2 years in college before he goes away as planned. My heart is in pain but I have faith God will look in my grandsons heart and reveal the truth. Please pray for me and my grandson Izaak. I pray he stays with me while going to college. Me and his siblings need him more than he knows.

fulloffaith · 2025-01-18T20:29:34-0600

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

Articles · 2025-01-18T20:30:27-0600

Let us begin by lifting up your concerns in prayer.

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up Brokennlost2 and their grandson Izaak. Lord, we know that You have a perfect plan for both of their lives, and we trust in Your wisdom and guidance. We ask for Your peace and comfort to fill Brokennlost2's heart as they navigate this challenging time. We also pray for Izaak who is at the crossroads of life. Please help him make decisions that align with Your will. Please intervene in his affairs and the desires of his heart so that they align with yours and his decisions are made by You and not himself. We ask this in Jesus Christ's name.

Brokennlost2, it is natural to feel concerned and emotional about Izaak's decision, especially given your close bond and your need for his help. However, let us remember what the Scriptures tell us: Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and He will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB. It is essential to trust that God is in control and has a plan for both you and Izaak.

It is commendable that you want Izaak to be happy, but let us consider whether his reasons for moving out are aligned with biblical principles. It is important to discuss with Izaak the importance of honoring and caring for family, as emphasized in 1 Timothy 5:8 WEB: But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever. If Izaak feels compelled to help others, remind him that charity begins at home, and that by caring for you, he is fulfilling a biblical responsibility.

Moreover, if Izaak is considering moving out to be able to help and minister to others, then it is important to discuss with Izaak that he does not need to live on campus to minister to others. Encourage him to be involved in a church and campus ministries where he can help and minister to others. It is important to stress to Izaak that he should not feel that he has to do anything. But he should follow what God has called him to do.

Let us also remember that it is God who directs our paths.

A man's heart plans his course, but Yahweh directs his steps.

Proverbs 16:9 WEB

If it is God's will for Izaak to stay with you, then trust that God will intervene and change Izaak's heart. It is also important for you and his siblings to express to Izaak how much you all need and depend on him.

However, it is also important to consider Izaak's feelings and the possibility that God may be calling him to a different path. Pray together and seek God's will for Izaak's life.

If Izaak decides to move out, let us encourage him to be the light of the world as Jesus encourages us in Matthew 5:14-16 WEB:

You are the light of the world. A city located on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do you light a lamp, and put it under a measuring basket, but on a stand; and it shines to all who are in the house. Even so, let your light shine before men; that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.

Remind Izaak that wherever he goes, he should shine the light of Jesus and be a positive influence on those around him.

Lastly, let us address the concern that the prayer request did not mention the name of Jesus Christ. It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. And there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved! Acts 4:12 WEB.

We encourage you to believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved Acts 16:21 WEB. This means to believe Jesus came to earth as both man and God, died on a cross because of our sins, was buried, rose again from the dead on the third day, and is coming again.

Let us continue to pray for you and Izaak, trusting that God will guide both of your hearts and steps. May God's will be done, and may His peace and comfort fill your hearts. We pray that you will be able to discuss with Izaak the concerns you have.

hostadmin · 2025-01-18T20:33:31-0600

Dear Brokennlost2,

We're here with you, feeling the weight of this decision. We understand the love and concern you have for Izaak, and it's natural to feel hurt and worried. But remember, God is in control, and He has a plan for both of you.

We've been praying for you, asking God to give you peace and wisdom. We're also praying for Izaak, that God would guide his heart and help him make decisions that align with God's will. We believe that God can intervene and change Izaak's heart if it's His will for him to stay with you.

We want to encourage you to have an open and honest conversation with Izaak. Share your feelings and needs with him, but also listen to his perspective. Remind him of the biblical principle of honoring and caring for family (1 Timothy 5:8), and that charity begins at home. If he feels compelled to help others, encourage him to do so within the context of his family responsibilities.

Let's also trust that God will direct Izaak's paths (Proverbs 16:9). If it's God's will for Izaak to stay with you, then trust that God will intervene and change Izaak's heart. But if God is calling Izaak to a different path, let's be open to that possibility and support him in his decision.

No matter what happens, let's encourage Izaak to be the light of the world, shining Jesus' love wherever he goes (Matthew 5:14-16).

We're here for you, Brokennlost2. Let's continue to pray together, trusting that God will guide both of your hearts and steps. May God's peace and comfort fill your heart, and may His will be done.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.