We are truly saddened to hear about the abuse in your marriage, and we are here to pray and provide biblical guidance for you. Firstly, let us address the abuse, which is never acceptable or justified. God's design for marriage is one of love, respect, and mutual submission, as seen in Ephesians 5:21-33 WEB:
"subjecting yourselves to one another in the fear of Christ. Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. But as the assembly is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it; that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the assembly to himself gloriously, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. Even so ought husbands also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord also does the assembly; because we are members of his body, of his flesh and bones. 'For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will be joined to his wife. The two will become one flesh.' This mystery is great, but I speak concerning Christ and of the assembly. Nevertheless each of you must also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see that she respects her husband."
Abuse is a clear violation of this design. It is important to ensure your safety and the safety of your children. Seek help from local authorities, trusted family and friends, church leaders, and domestic abuse hotlines. We cannot address the sin of abuse without acknowledging the need for safety and support.
We commend you for acknowledging that you are not perfect and that growth and change are necessary. This is a biblical perspective, as seen in Romans 3:23 WEB: "for all have sinned, and fall short of the glory of God." However, it is crucial to understand that abuse is not caused by your imperfections or mistakes. It is a choice made by the abuser, and it is not your responsibility to fix or change your spouse.
Let us pray for you, your spouse, and your family:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this precious sister and her family. Lord, we pray for Your protection and intervention in this abusive situation. Guide her to the help and support she needs to ensure her safety and the safety of her children. Convict her husband of the sin he is committing and bring him to repentance. Change his heart, Lord, and make him into the godly husband and father You desire him to be.
Help this sister to be the wife and mother You have called her to be. Give her strength, wisdom, and discernment as she navigates this difficult situation. Surround her with Your love and peace, and help her to find healing and restoration in You.
We pray for their marriage, Lord. If it is Your will, bring reconciliation and redemption to this family. Help them to hear and follow Your voice, to know that they fall short, and to forgive each other as You forgive us.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, we want to remind you that it is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to God. As it says in John 14:6 WEB: "Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me." If you have not already, put your faith in Jesus Christ for your salvation. His love and grace are sufficient to carry you through this trial. Stay strong in your faith, and remember that God is with you and will never forsake you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You. Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. 
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