Abusive husband

[Romonle]

Dear Brethren
I had coffee with a friend that I had not seen for a long time. When my husband arrived home, he started verbally abusing me. The reason was that his brother had asked to visit and apparently it was because of me that he had not been to visit. I asked him if his brother asked to see both of us or just him. He said just him so I said that he should be making arrangements then with his brother for him to visit as he did not include me. I do not understand why I am getting abused because of his family. It has been going on for 36 years now.
Please pray for me.

 

[Articles]

Romonle, we are truly saddened to hear about the abuse you're enduring in your marriage. We want you to know that God's heart aches for you and that He wants you to be treated with love and respect.

Firstly, let us address the elephant in the room. God hates divorce; however, God allows divorce for fornication or adultery. This is clearly stated in the scriptures.
Malachi 2:16 "For I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel, "and him who covers his garment with violence!" says Yahweh of Armies. "Therefore pay attention to your spirit, and do not be unfaithful."

Matthew 5:32 "but I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries her when she is divorced commits adultery."

Matthew 19:9 "I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and he who marries her when she is divorced commits adultery."

The spiritual covenant of marriage can only be broken by fornication or adultery, which is also a sin. The forgiveness for this sin can only be granted by God, and only to a repentant spouse.

It is never a wife or husband's fault to receive violence or verbal abuse at the hands of their spouse. It looks like this marriage had issues from the first day; otherwise, you would not be in this position. God's plan for marriage is to be a permanent commitment honouring God. The union can not be one of abuse or violence. Jesus is our example, and He calls us to lay down our lives for our spouse.

Romonle, Consider Jesus' words in Matthew 7:12 WEB, "Therefore whatever you desire for men to do to you, you shall also do to them; for this is the law and the prophets." This is known as the Golden Rule, and it applies to all relationships, including marriage. Your husband should be treating you with the same kindness and respect that he would want to be treated with. This behavior from your husband is not biblical and will not be overlooked by God in the same manner.

1 Peter 3:7 WEB, "You husbands, in the same way, live with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the woman, as to the weaker vessel, as being also joint heirs of the grace of life; that your prayers may not be hindered." Your husband should be living with you in an understanding way, showing you honor and respect as a fellow heir of the grace of life for believing in Jesus.

Also, The scriptures do not mention the name of Jesus Christ in this prayer, and there is no other name by which we can be saved. It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God It is most likely your husband is not a Christian and does not respect God and His laws. We want to make you aware of this as we do not want to assume anything.

We pray for you, Romonle, that God will give you wisdom and strength to handle this situation. May He protect you from harm and guide you in His will. We pray that your husband would come to repentance and faith to be a follower of Jesus Christ and a godly, loving husband. We pray that God would heal your marriage and make it a testimony of His grace and power for believing in Jesus Christ.

Father, in Jesus Christ's name, we lift up Romonle to You. We pray for her protection and wisdom. We ask that You would convict her husband of his sin and draw him to repentance. We pray for healing and restoration in their marriage, according to Your will. Give Romonle the strength and guidance to be in the center of Your will. We ask this all In Jesus name which is above every name and for your glory. We thank you God for the grace You have extended to us through Jesus Christ. In His name, we pray.

 

[hostadmin]

We're here for you, sis. It's heartbreaking to see you in this situation, but please know that you're not alone. God sees you, and He's right there with you, aching for you to be treated with love and respect. We've been praying for you, and we want you to know that we're here to support you in any way we can.

We've been reflecting on some verses that we hope can encourage you. In Ephesians 5:25, it says, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her." Your husband is called to love you like Jesus loves the Church, with a selfless, sacrificial love. Anything less than that is not what God intended for your marriage.

We also want to remind you of 1 Peter 3:4, "But let it be the beauty of your heart, the quiet and peaceful spirit, which, like a gentle jewel, is of great value in the sight of God." You have a strength and beauty that comes from within, from your spirit. Hold onto that, and remember that your worth is not defined by the way your husband treats you.

Please keep praying, keep trusting in God, and keep seeking His will for your life. We're here for you, praying for you, and believing with you that God can turn this situation around. Keep fighting the good fight, and remember that you're loved, you're valued, and you're never alone.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[Garrett23]

Dear Brethren
I had coffee with a friend that I had not seen for a long time. When my husband arrived home, he started verbally abusing me. The reason was that his brother had asked to visit and apparently it was because of me that he had not been to visit. I asked him if his brother asked to see both of us or just him. He said just him so I said that he should be making arrangements then with his brother for him to visit as he did not include me. I do not understand why I am getting abused because of his family. It has been going on for 36 years now.
Please pray for me.

I think that we speak words of hate and anger when we ourselves are upset at our own lack of communication or actions. I know when I look back at all the times I’ve said hurtful things to others, it was really a waste of wisdom on my part, but we are so quick to blame others and make excuses for our poor actions. I think if I didn’t believe in the lord I wouldn’t hold so much guilt for all the things I’ve done in my life. I’m working on myself at this time and believe that god isn’t done with me yet in this life. I pray lord that this marriage and relationship finds light and that communication finds a way to ease the pain and confusion between both parties. I pray that they find the spark that made them fall in love and that they see that patience and kindness isn’t easy but worth the effort. Rest easy friend and know that there are people out here that support you. In Jesus name I pray amen

 

[animallovez]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Eioch]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


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[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

 

[hostadmin]

We continue to lift you up in prayer, dear sister, ever grateful for the trust you have placed in us to stand with you in intercession. We are reminded of God's faithfulness and His promise to never leave nor forsake us. If you have seen God's intervention in your situation, we would be overjoyed to hear your praise report, for your testimony will encourage others who may be going through similar trials.

If the abuse has not ceased, we want you to know that we are still here, steadfast in our commitment to pray for you. Please share an update with us, and let us continue to cry out to God together for His protection and mercy. We pray fervently for your husband's heart to change, for his spirit to be made new, and to receive Jesus as his Lord and Savior. We also pray for your strength, wisdom, courage, and discernment as you stand firm in the gap for your husband’s salvation. We offer all of these before the Throne of Grace, pleading the blood of Jesus over you, your husband and your home. We pray the Lord will make your situation clear to you and also provide opportunities for reconciliation.

We are asking that God shields you from harm and guides you and your husband to seek individual counseling with a Christian pastor or professional counselor to bring restoration and healing to your marriage. We ask the Lord to send strong godly men as mentors and disciples to share God's word with your husband and be a light in his life. May you both stand before the throne of Grace in peace, love, and joy as you grow in your covenant with Jesus.

As we wait with you for God’s breakthrough, let us all take comfort in knowing that the battle belongs to the Lord Jesus Christ. May you feel the warmth of His love and companionship, and may that love flow through you to your husband, softening his heart. In Jesus' name we pray.