Abuse, misunderstandings...###

[Anonymous]

For my mother to understand what I meant and why I set my boundaries instead of her acting like I was attacking her for setting my foot down and saying no. My boundaries were set for my child's safety...yet she prioritizes pleasing others instead of my baby's wellbeing... she doesn't understand or doesn't want to and turn the conversation into a bad discussion because she preferred to twist everything as if she didn't understand instead of just respecting my boundaries all because she was caught up with her lies she has been telling me..in the end she wants to use my baby to parade it with people who will harm her just for people pleasing. Also she wants to reopen doors to family members who have abused us just because she "forgave" them and believes that keeping my baby safe from them means living in anger with them....cuz she believes that we shouldn't get away till they hurt my baby.... and then she believes that getting away from them should be temporary....also me setting boundary and explaining this to her makes her react in a way where she twists things acting like if I want to control her...when in reality I just tell her to live her life without endangering mine or my baby's but it seems like it's too "difficult" for her to understand that..I thought we were finally going somewhere it turns out she was just playing me to get close to my baby to use it for all of the things I mentioned...she also considers me choosing to stay celibate and not date as if it was me being angry at the world... like I'm a single mother and I don't want people to harm my baby or for her to have an abusive stepfather etc I want to focus on being a mother and keeping her safe...but instead I get thorned up for standing up against abusers, family abusers...Men who have abused us..etc who all are looking for a way into my baby's life just because I'm single ...and she is feeding them acting like that makes her morally superior or something... it's just me against everyone ...I wish she would understand but instead..like she has for all my life...she prefers the world over my safety and wellbeing and now my baby's all because she can't choose better people to surround herself with because she believes everyone is like that...

 

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We grieve with you in the challenges you're facing with your mother, and we lift you and your child up in prayer. It's crucial to honor our parents, as commanded in Exodus 20:12, "Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which Yahweh your God is giving you." However, we must also recognize that our ultimate loyalty is to God and His principles.

In setting boundaries for your child's safety, you are acting wisely and responsibly. It is important to communicate these boundaries with love and respect, but also with firmness. Colossians 3:21 reminds us, "Fathers, don’t provoke your children, so they won’t be discouraged." This verse applies to parents in general, and it's clear that you're acting out of love and a desire to protect your child from harm.

Your mother's people-pleasing behavior and willingness to overlook past abuse may stem from a misguided perception of forgiveness. While forgiveness is essential, as emphasized in Ephesians 4:32, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you," it does not mean exposing yourself or your child to potential harm. Proverbs 22:3 warns, "The prudent sees danger and hides himself; but the simple pass on, and suffer for it."

It's also commendable that you're choosing to stay celibate and focus on being a mother. This aligns with God's design for sexual intimacy within marriage. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 encourages, "For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to possess himself of his own vessel in sanctification and honor."

Let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, seeking Your guidance and intervention in this difficult situation. Please soften ###'s mother's heart, help her understand the boundaries set for the child's safety, and grant her discernment in her relationships. Give ### the strength and wisdom to communicate effectively and stand firm in their godly decisions. Protect their child from any harm, and surround them both with Your loving care. Help ### to find comfort and support in You and in the fellowship of believers. We ask this all in Jesus' name, Amen.

We encourage you to stay steadfast in your faith and continue to set godly boundaries. Trust in the Lord, and lean on His understanding. Proverbs 3:5-6 reassures us, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."

 

[hostadmin]

We're here with you, standing in the gap as you navigate this tough situation with your mother. It's clear that you're doing your best to protect your child, and we commend you for that. It's not easy to set boundaries, especially when it involves family, but it's crucial for your baby's safety.

We understand that it's frustrating when others don't see things from your perspective, and it's especially hurtful when it's a parent. But remember, we're all works in progress, and sometimes, people just need time to understand and accept changes. Keep communicating your boundaries with love and patience, and trust that God will open her heart to understand.

In the meantime, let's keep praying together:

"Dear Lord, we ask You to help ###'s mother understand the importance of the boundaries set for the baby's safety. Give her the wisdom to prioritize the child's wellbeing over pleasing others. Help ### to stay strong and patient, and give her the courage to continue protecting her child. Surround them both with Your love and protection. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

Keep trusting in God's plan, and remember, you're not alone. We're here for you, and so is God.

 

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I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Let Us Pray: God Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus' name to please bless me with everything I stand in need of, and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, strength, and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to prosper, have excellent health, and have an ever growing closer stronger more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always honor, respect, and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps, actions, and words.

God heal me, body, soul, and spirit. Cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, pray Your best for me, and all those I love and care about. God please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith. Prayer written by Encourager ###, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

 

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Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.