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Maluwe
Disciple of Prayer
I became a widow after my wife passed in Feb 2018. I never looked for anyone else until my dog also passed away 2 and 1/2 years after my wife passed.
I began to want to find companionship with a new wife. I was 71 years old at that time. I went on a dating site and dated a woman who was single and 73 years
old. This lady claimed to be Christian, but she didn't understand that I believed marriage came before sex. It didn't take but by the 3rd weekend we broke up
by her request.
At that time, I changed my profile on the dating site to say that I believed that marriage should come before a sexual union. Dating is fine , but the sexual union
should be reserved until after marriage. I thought that I would not get too many responders, but in fact , I about 6 to 7 times more responses then I previously had.
So many that I got tired of looking. I narrowed the ones I wanted to look at to widows only. I still had too many. I went and prayed and asked God if he had a woman
that he wanted for me that he choose the one. He did. One lady, Patricia B came up with a phone number to call her. She was the only one with contact info to reach out.
I asked God if this was the one he chose? I waited a couple of days to see if anyone else came up, and no one did. I looked at the lady's pictures, and she looked sad and her smile seemed to be forced. I called her on the third day, and no one else had reached out.
Pat seemed sweet on the telephone. We made a date at a restaurant. We met and she was a very pretty woman to me. We took pictures togerther. We hit it off very well.
She even said, I hope we can do this again, and Yes, we did. I and her were both in Love. I Really loved this woman. She Did tell me right off that to her family was important.
I just didn't realize how important, but I found out not long after. She claimed to be Christian. She loves singing Gospel music. She seems to have a Love for God. She don't seem to have deep bible or spiritual knowledge.
As time went on I met a granddaughter who at that time was 11 going on 12 years old. Her mother passed away, suicide when she was 5 years old. He father raised her like she was a boy she hunts, plays softball and is pretty good for a girl. Her father taught her well to play softball. Pat took the place of her mother and raised her, but I should say spoiled her. When I first met Sophia, the granddaughter, She was rude and obnoxious in that she would physically push me away from her grandma and get between us at all
times, no mater where we were. At home, sitting on sofa watching TV, out shopping, just walking down the street. Sophia never failed to jump between us and push me away.
I finally asked Pat to correct her granddaughter on my behalf because it was being disrespectful of me. Pat didn't correct her granddaughter, but instead corrected me.
When I would go to Sophia's house and her Dad, Brian was there, Pat's son, Sophia would not do her antics in front of her dad, because he would and did correct Sophia
when I was there and he saw her being disrespectful. The older Brother, Shawn told me he knew how Spoiled Sophia was, in fact he used the term Spoiled Brat to me. I know it was not her dad who Spoiled her, but was and is in fact, Pat who Spoiled her.
Pat and I became engaged not long after we started Dating. I loved her that much and she Loved me also. We met in Nov 2021, and were engaged in Dec 2021. We bagan having sex and on Valentine day, Feb 14, 2022, we said our vows to God in marriage and asked God to Bless our union. No one was present. It was just me and Pat and God. I made out our marriage certificate, we both signed it we had it witnessed, and it was notarized.
I have always recognized my vows to God and I feel we are justly married in a three way covenant between Pat and I and God. I have no doubt that God has heard our vows
and approved us according to 1Cor 7:8&9.
We have been since then always bickering and arguing and Pat has been vasulating back and forth saying she's not married, then she is married, The her son Brian told his mother after a church service one Sunday in June 2023, not long after a vacation in Gatlinburg with the Older Son, Shawn and his family that I was no longer welcome at his house. This was due to and argument that Pat and I were having because she wanted me out of her house again. Sophia was there and I was locke out of the house when she closed and locked the front door on me I waled into the next room and cussed not at Sophia, but at the whole situation. Sophia told her dad of it and made it sound like I cussed at her, and that is why Brian said I wasn't welcome. When Pat told me about this, I told Pat that we didn't have to go to his house if I am not welcome. That is when Pat said to me that she can't turn her back on her family. I asked her, what am I? Am I not your husband, am I not you family also
It has now come to the point that Pat hates and almost detests me. She refuses to take my side in all and any family disputes. I am basically a no one and a nobody to her. I have wanted and proposed making up with her son's, but she said to me that it won't happen because her sons are very staunch and will not give in. They have unforgiveness in their hearts, the entire family has isolated me and I am at a loss of what to do. Right now She will not call me or talk to me she will not even answer my text messages. I feel compelled to reconcile, but she is very staunch also. No more love, no forgiveness, Done and never wants to see me again. I am very concerned to do the right thing and be in right standing before God. Biblically reconcilliation is in order, but I cannot do it if my Wife is being deceived.
I began to want to find companionship with a new wife. I was 71 years old at that time. I went on a dating site and dated a woman who was single and 73 years
old. This lady claimed to be Christian, but she didn't understand that I believed marriage came before sex. It didn't take but by the 3rd weekend we broke up
by her request.
At that time, I changed my profile on the dating site to say that I believed that marriage should come before a sexual union. Dating is fine , but the sexual union
should be reserved until after marriage. I thought that I would not get too many responders, but in fact , I about 6 to 7 times more responses then I previously had.
So many that I got tired of looking. I narrowed the ones I wanted to look at to widows only. I still had too many. I went and prayed and asked God if he had a woman
that he wanted for me that he choose the one. He did. One lady, Patricia B came up with a phone number to call her. She was the only one with contact info to reach out.
I asked God if this was the one he chose? I waited a couple of days to see if anyone else came up, and no one did. I looked at the lady's pictures, and she looked sad and her smile seemed to be forced. I called her on the third day, and no one else had reached out.
Pat seemed sweet on the telephone. We made a date at a restaurant. We met and she was a very pretty woman to me. We took pictures togerther. We hit it off very well.
She even said, I hope we can do this again, and Yes, we did. I and her were both in Love. I Really loved this woman. She Did tell me right off that to her family was important.
I just didn't realize how important, but I found out not long after. She claimed to be Christian. She loves singing Gospel music. She seems to have a Love for God. She don't seem to have deep bible or spiritual knowledge.
As time went on I met a granddaughter who at that time was 11 going on 12 years old. Her mother passed away, suicide when she was 5 years old. He father raised her like she was a boy she hunts, plays softball and is pretty good for a girl. Her father taught her well to play softball. Pat took the place of her mother and raised her, but I should say spoiled her. When I first met Sophia, the granddaughter, She was rude and obnoxious in that she would physically push me away from her grandma and get between us at all
times, no mater where we were. At home, sitting on sofa watching TV, out shopping, just walking down the street. Sophia never failed to jump between us and push me away.
I finally asked Pat to correct her granddaughter on my behalf because it was being disrespectful of me. Pat didn't correct her granddaughter, but instead corrected me.
When I would go to Sophia's house and her Dad, Brian was there, Pat's son, Sophia would not do her antics in front of her dad, because he would and did correct Sophia
when I was there and he saw her being disrespectful. The older Brother, Shawn told me he knew how Spoiled Sophia was, in fact he used the term Spoiled Brat to me. I know it was not her dad who Spoiled her, but was and is in fact, Pat who Spoiled her.
Pat and I became engaged not long after we started Dating. I loved her that much and she Loved me also. We met in Nov 2021, and were engaged in Dec 2021. We bagan having sex and on Valentine day, Feb 14, 2022, we said our vows to God in marriage and asked God to Bless our union. No one was present. It was just me and Pat and God. I made out our marriage certificate, we both signed it we had it witnessed, and it was notarized.
I have always recognized my vows to God and I feel we are justly married in a three way covenant between Pat and I and God. I have no doubt that God has heard our vows
and approved us according to 1Cor 7:8&9.
We have been since then always bickering and arguing and Pat has been vasulating back and forth saying she's not married, then she is married, The her son Brian told his mother after a church service one Sunday in June 2023, not long after a vacation in Gatlinburg with the Older Son, Shawn and his family that I was no longer welcome at his house. This was due to and argument that Pat and I were having because she wanted me out of her house again. Sophia was there and I was locke out of the house when she closed and locked the front door on me I waled into the next room and cussed not at Sophia, but at the whole situation. Sophia told her dad of it and made it sound like I cussed at her, and that is why Brian said I wasn't welcome. When Pat told me about this, I told Pat that we didn't have to go to his house if I am not welcome. That is when Pat said to me that she can't turn her back on her family. I asked her, what am I? Am I not your husband, am I not you family also
It has now come to the point that Pat hates and almost detests me. She refuses to take my side in all and any family disputes. I am basically a no one and a nobody to her. I have wanted and proposed making up with her son's, but she said to me that it won't happen because her sons are very staunch and will not give in. They have unforgiveness in their hearts, the entire family has isolated me and I am at a loss of what to do. Right now She will not call me or talk to me she will not even answer my text messages. I feel compelled to reconcile, but she is very staunch also. No more love, no forgiveness, Done and never wants to see me again. I am very concerned to do the right thing and be in right standing before God. Biblically reconcilliation is in order, but I cannot do it if my Wife is being deceived.
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