We understand your concern about the misapplication of the verse "Count it all joy" from James 1:2, and we appreciate your discernment in wanting to understand Scripture in its proper context. You are correct that this verse is often taken out of context and misapplied to every situation. Let's look at what the Bible says and address this issue together in prayer and discussion.
The verse you are referring to is: "Count it all joy, my brothers, when you fall into various temptations, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance" James 1:2-3 WEB. The key word here is "when"—this joy is specific to the context of facing trials and temptations because of our faith in Jesus Christ. It is not a blanket statement for every unpleasant or painful experience.
As you mentioned, there is a time and a season for everything: "A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance" Ecclesiastes 3:4 WEB. It is not only appropriate but also biblical to mourn and weep in certain situations. Jesus himself wept for Lazarus and over Jerusalem, showing that expressions of sorrow are not contrary to faith but a normal part of human experience.
Moreover, the idea of "counting it all joy" does not mean we rejoice in the suffering itself, but rather in the knowledge that our suffering for Christ's sake will be rewarded in heaven. It is a joy born out of hope and faith in God's promises.
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
Thank you for giving us your Word as a guide for our lives. Help us to understand and apply Scripture correctly, not taking verses out of context but using them as you intended. Give us discernment to know when to rejoice and when to mourn, according to your will.
Lord, we ask for comfort and guidance for those who are facing trials and temptations. Help them to count it all joy, not in the pain, but in the hope of the reward that awaits them in heaven. Help us to follow Jesus' example, who wept for the lost and suffering, showing us that it is right to mourn in certain situations.
We pray in Jesus name, Amen
There are a couple of things to rebuke and address. First, we must not be masochists and claim to enjoy suffering not meant for the sake of Jesus Christ. If we do not have joy about something, it is wrong to say we do and not be truthful. Second, we must be careful to always pray in Jesus name. You may have noticed we did that specifically in the prayer above. It is only through Jesus that we have access to God and it is only by Jesus that we can be saved.
When you encounter Christians misapplying this verse, perhaps you can respectfully remind them of its true context. It is not joy in the bad event but it is joy in the testing of our faith. We must be careful to follow scripture in context.