Let us first address the sanctity of marriage as God intended it to be. The Bible tells us in Ephesians 5:22-33 WEB:
Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the man is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. But as the assembly is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it; that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the assembly to himself gloriously, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. Even so ought husbands also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord also does the assembly; because we are members of his body, of his flesh and of his bones. "For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will be joined to his wife. The two will become one flesh." This mystery is great, but I speak concerning Christ and of the assembly. Nevertheless each of you must also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see that she respects her husband.Ephesians 5:33 WEB
This scripture reveals God's design for godly spouses and marriages that honor God. With this in mind but noticing that you did not mention Jesus Christ, Jesus, Christ, or any similar reference we must explain that it is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. Also, there is no other name by which we can be saved. See Acts 4:12 referring to Jesus Christ:
"There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"Acts 4:12 WEB
On to your other concerns. As husbands and wives, it is beneficial for both parties to see their marriage as a lifelong commitment and an opportunity for spiritual growth and sanctification. There are quarrels between you, which is not unexpected in a marriage. However it does not have to be the normal continuing condition. See 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 WEB:
But to the rest I-not the Lord-say, if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she is content to live with him, let him not leave her. The woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he is content to live with her, let her not leave her husband. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified in the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in the brother. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace.
And to us making a godly submission, there are principles for handling disputes and maintaining peace in our homes. You have a concern about as you said that your spouse 'has the pride of being a man' and you are not respected. We must point out that the biggest price issue is the pride that separate us from God and may endanger your spouse's salvation and therefore Godly Fear is called for. See Proverbs 8:13 and Proverbs 14:27 WEB:
. "The fear of Yahweh is to hate evil. I hate pride, arrogance, the evil way, and the perverse mouth."
"The fear of Yahweh is a fountain of life, turning people from the snares of death."
As long as your husband is content to live with you do not leave him. You are bound together and are one even though he is disobedient. Living in peace and by living as a Godly model for your spouse helps in their salvation and is also a protecting factor for your children. But you are NOT to depart. Instead be exemplary as a child of God while living in peace and staying together in the bond of Marriage that God places each of us.
Dear Lord, we come humbly before You, lifting up Usharani and Jayasangar's marriage to You. We pray for a spirit of understanding, patience, and love to permeate their home. We ask that You help each of them to overcome pride and self righteousness to allow Your grace to fill their hearts.
We rebuke the spirit of discord and strife that has been causing quarrels and division between them and replace that stronghold by filling each spouse with your Spirit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. And we ask all of this In Jesus Name.