40 Days Day 6

Wow we are almost one week in, 5 more to go. Yeah. As I was doing my reading this morning something really hit me. The first was what I was reading. I read 2 Kings 4-5. There are a few powerful messages in there which I will go into detail in a minute.



The other thing that hit me was that my mind went directly to H. He is never far from my mind. How many of us our spouse is so on our minds that we cannot do or think about marriage restoration. I know I get those points in my life. It is at these times we are making restoration our idol. Anyway that was just a thought that came to me this morning.

So in 2 Kings 4 there is the story of the couple that set up room for Elisha the prophet, so every time he came by he stayed there. He asked her if she wanted anything, she said no. Look, it was Elisha’s servant that said she didn’t have a child, not hers. So she had a child. Then the child got sick and died. She went to her husband asked for permission and then went to Elisha. When his servant met her and asked how everything was, she said it was well. It wasn’t till she got to Elisha, the man of God that she laid down her burden.

So there are a few things I noticed in this story. One she knew her place and she asked permission of her husband. How many of us women when our husband is present or absent ask his permission or council? This is very important. Because if a man cannot feel king in his home he will find somewhere where he can. I have written about this before and will do so again during this 40 days later on.

Two, is that when Elisha’s servant asked her how was things she said it was well. This is so important. During this trial when someone asks how we are, what do we say? Do you go into detail about what your spouse is doing? Do you start telling about your stand? Or do you just smile and say “I’m good�

I have noticed that more often than not people who I have known for a while and know what is going on, when they ask me how I am doing I just say “I’m okâ€. Especially people who are friends with both me and the OW. I was thinking last night how many of these people think I have given up on my stand. But you know it doesn’t matter. A lot of people because I am not crying or putting my h down think that “I have moved on†even though they know I don’t believe in divorce.

I do find that if people ask me about if my divorce is final, that is when I start getting defensive and start talking about my stand etc. PRIDE. Pride is sneaky. Pride makes you want to tell everyone how great God is because you are standing for you marriage and he will restore it. Sound familiar to everyone. “God is good he is giving me the strength to carry on. You know when so and so did this it was only by God’s grace I was able to not say anything……†or does that sound familiar. Yes we all have been there but in reality in this situation if the person didn’t know what had happened than we are just bragging about how righteous we are not how great God is.

Truly honoring God would being able to just say to anyone regardless of the situation I am ok. It is well. If they ask about your spouse to just say they are ok. If the prod further, answer politely their questions if they are not intrusive, but the minute you start to feel defensive and you have to defend yourself change the subject. You all know that feeling you get when in a discussion and you have to “prove†you are right. Change the subject before pride gets a hold of you and then you are gossiping. I know all of this well. Spent the yesterday with MIL and I will not lie when she start saying stuff about the OW I was right there. Pride is sneaky. It is the easiest one for the enemy to use to deceive us. We think we are praising God but we are really just telling people how great we are now that we have found God. Do you see the subtle difference in this situation? If you have to tell someone you are at peace and explain why, then more than likely it is not God. I find myself in these situations all the time and I really have to look at my motives when I get home or alone and I see that wow maybe that was a bit of pride.

We do not need to tell people we are Christians or that we are standing for our marriage or anything. Unless someone genuinely asks BECAUSE THEY SEE A DIFFERENCE in you, you should need to say anything. It will just be gossiping and pride. I have one really good friend she doesn’t understand anything about standing, but I do go to her when I need to vent and get things off my chest and yes when I need to get the pride out of me. She indulges me in all sorts of ways. No I am not perfect nowhere near, which is why we need to go to God daily. I mean daily, sometimes by the hour or minute.

So when you feel a need to tell someone more than you are OK think about why, and ask God for a discerning spirit so you can tell if it is an opportunity to Glory God or just yourself. (One good check is that after the conversation the person tells you wow “you are so sting because I couldn’t†or if the person says “WOW GOD IS GOODâ€.)

Have a beautiful day.

Then continue in you journal:

. Write any prayer you have for Today. Anything you need for today. No matter how small.

Also write anything you are thankful for today and some praises to God. For he is worthy and deserves it. Amen.

If you still have time or at some point today. Find a verse or scripture text reading. Anything out of the bible and read and meditate on it for a few minutes, then write a little bit about what you got from it, how it made you feel. Anything.
(We will do these every day).

Anthonette.

List of names and marriages

Joe and Cindy Frank
Tina and Michael Nadama
Karen and Tim Rice
Anthonette And Rudolph Simons
Kevin and Nancy Owens
Marriage Covenant Ministries
Wobanda Felly
Gary Mayfeild
Lori And Darryl Vartabedian
Debroah and Sonny Woods
Judy Hite
Richard Willis
Shawn and Kristen Drennen
Kin61
Shanita and DaMon Johnson
Neta and Chris
Paula and Allen
Mandy Shumacker
Heather Lueth
Scott and Crystal
B.J. and Threasa Scroggins and Family
Nina and Dennis
Dilawn and Ryan
Chandra and Greg
Adam and Sabrina Lawson
Karen Savoie
Beverly Lagana
Sallie and Andre Clement
Lisa Dabe
Wes and Jodi Bailes
Farah Meza Lopez and Henry Brekvoort
Carmen and Erin
Carly and Crystal
Gina and Ade Olawale
Diana and Juan Pablo
Leslee and John Rossotto
Nick and Sarah McNeill
Brad and Rosemary Salisnury
Eric and Crystal Meehan
Neil and Nancy Quinn
Stephen and Noelle Mounce
Barta and Billy Kemp
Solon and Leah Philips
Lichelle Whittaker
Arcy Espana
Katy and Erine Macias
Karen and Andre Marias
Susan and Rob
Luis and Mattie Bediako
Scott and Heather Ellis
Lourdres and Tommy Moore
Mark and Greeta Anderthoon
Ugo and TopeOsuya
Tim and Jennie Packard
Janet and Rodney Whitmore
Scott and Delores Hanks
Diana Moreno
Sheila and Jose Reveron
shadowofleaves
AHEMED AND Charmaine Bouchouka
Kevin and Michelle
Freddrick and Angela Young Jordan
Jade and Willie Cordova
Jessica and Ronald Ndoro
Pam and Richard Thompson
Ernest and Nichole Herrere, and children Josiah, Selah, Eliannah, Jude
David and Elizabeth Barrios
Krystal and Ervin Arroyo
Bwire Anne Wanjiku and Chrispinus Bwire
Chily and Ana Maria Alviar
Torrey and Stephanie Harrison
Stephen & Noelle Mounce
Jack and Kimie Michele Beeching
Mike and Missy
Mike and Tami Crites
Lela and Jeremy
Ty and Talitha Brittain
Ben and Lisa Marie
Benjamin and Lisa Marie Loya

Father God as we come to you today please lead us and guide our tongue you tell us that there is life and death in the word Father. Please let everything we say edify and lift up your name and not ours in Jesus precious name. Amen