We are grateful to hear your continued commitment to prayer and reflection on your situation with Maeve and your walk with Christ, Paroxyromai. We're glad to join faith with you in Jesus' name. It's important to remember the words of the Apostle Paul 'Don't be anxious for anything but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.'
Your struggle with natural impatience is normal, but we encourage you to meditate on the words of Lamentations 3:26: ''It is good that a man should hope and wait quietly for the salvation of Yahweh.' We commend you for recognizing and embracing your thoughtful and prayerfully spiritual approach to consider knowing Christ more deeply and growing in His grace.
We must clarify that the goal of your relationship with Maeve should be a God-honoring, godly marriage. God established marriage to consist with a God ordained union of one man and one woman as husband and wife, becoming one flesh. Any fornication or sexual acts out of wedlock utilized to build your relationship goes contrary to the scriptures and will not be endorsed.
We are concerned that Maeve has not returned to you and is not a believer in Christ. Further, we are grateful that you continue to turn to the Holy Scriptures and to Jesus Christ for guidance.
We urge you to consider the words of 2 Corinthians 6:14 that explain ''Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?''
Also, be mindful that only when you place hope in Jesus and call out His salvation, are you a child of God. It is only by His redeeming blood that we can cry out to We pray that she comes to know Christ in a transformative and life-changing way, but this does not mean to marry you but, rather, to become a believing Christian. We must make evident the goal is not to 'And what agreement has a temple of God with idols? For you are a temple of the living God. Even as God said, 'I will dwell in them and walk in them. I will be their God and they will be my people.' Please consider 2 Cor 6:16 (WEB).
We praise God together with you in Jesus' name for that your reverend has reached out to support you in this journey. We thank and glorify God for the hope and encouragement that hearing the Holy Spirit's work in your reverend's life has brought to your heart.
We echo your prayers from God's Word to petition for patience, Hebrews 6:12, and clarity, James 1:5, as you wait on God. We pray for Maeve to place her hope in Jesus, but not for her heart to become more loving to you. Do not make selfish requests that are just good for your heart. Maeve must be prayed for to be saved and redeemed to Jesus.
We pray for God to help you grow in faith, character, and be assured to guide you to use this waiting period wisely as we read in Proverbs 3:5-6. We pray that Maeve sees Jesus soon for the first time as her Lord and Savior. It may be even through reading and interpreting these words laid out. Since it is God's will to bring people to know Him as Lord and Savior, we pray to Jesus in unity and thanksgiving for that to happen.
Lord, in the name of Jesus, we thank You for Your faithfulness and goodness. We praise Your majesty and excellence. We bring Paroxyromai before Your throne and ask that You grant clarity and patience. We also ask that Maeve comes to the saving knowledge of Your Son. Let Paroxyromai exemplify Your light in such a way that Maeve sees You in Paroxyromai. We ask, Jesus, that Your will alone be established for Maeve and Paroxyromai. It is in the precious name of Jesus that we pray.
Thank you for taking the time to respond to my prayer request and for offering your prayers and scriptural encouragement. I can see that your intention is to guide me toward a God-honoring path, and I sincerely appreciate the time you’ve taken to engage with my situation.
That said, I’d like to address a few points in your response. First, I want to clarify that my prayers for Maeve are not selfish. While I do love her deeply and would want to marry her if it is God’s will, my greatest desire is for her to know Christ and to have her life transformed by His love and grace. My prayer has always been for God’s will to be done in this situation, not simply for what I think will make me happy. If reconciliation or a relationship with Maeve isn’t part of God’s plan, I trust Him to reveal that to me in His perfect time.
Second, regarding your concern about godly marriage and avoiding sin, I want to assure you that I have not and will not partake in anything outside of the bounds of a God-honoring relationship. I have rejected many advances from others, as my convictions and respect for God’s design for marriage have kept me firm in my decisions. Any relationship I pursue—whether it’s with Maeve or someone else—would only be one that honors Christ and is built on biblical principles. My intention has always been to pursue a relationship rooted in mutual love for Christ, should that be God’s will for us.
Third, while I understand the importance of not being unequally yoked with an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14), I also recognize that God can work in extraordinary ways to bring people to Him. My prayer isn’t about entering into a relationship unequally yoked, but rather that Maeve would come to know Christ in a life-changing way—whether that leads to reconciliation with me or simply her own journey of faith. I trust God to align our paths according to His will, and I’m committed to following His direction, even if it leads away from her.
Fourth, I feel that your tone comes across as rigid and overly critical. For example, you’ve expressed concern that my prayers are selfish or that they don’t explicitly mention Jesus enough. While I appreciate your desire to ensure biblical accuracy, I want to assure you that my faith in Jesus is central to all of this. Every prayer I offer is lifted up in His name, and I strive to honor Him in every aspect of my journey. I understand the importance of praying in Jesus’ name, and while it may not have been explicitly stated in my request, it is always implicit in my prayers.
Finally, I agree wholeheartedly with your emphasis on waiting patiently and using this time to grow in faith and character. I’m striving to do just that—praying, reading scripture, and seeking godly counsel. I’m not perfect, and I have moments of impatience and doubt, but I trust that God is working in me through this season.
I ask for your continued prayers, but I also encourage you to approach these discussions with more grace and understanding. Scripture calls us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15) and to build one another up (1 Thessalonians 5:11). Criticism without empathy can discourage rather than uplift, and I hope we can walk this journey together with that in mind.
Thank you again for your prayers and for the scriptures you’ve shared. May God continue to guide us all as we seek to follow Him.