2 years ago my mother died. I moved back ...

[Streetmedik]

2 years ago my mother died. I moved back here to take care of my father. In doing so, I had to leave behind the one woman in this world that I love. In order to be a good son, I had to leave her and take care of my father. To be a good man for her, I have to abandon my father and know that he will die. The stress, anxiety and depression are overwhelming.

The girl calls the house, call phone, floods my email... saying how terrible I am that I left her. I have tried to explain that it is my responsibility to look after my father, his health is not good. Dad says forget her, she says forget dad.

I am ready to give up completely.

I have been praying for God to help for 2 years. IT is only getting worse.

I just want God to tell me what to do. I do not see a solution with my human eyes and mind. I need God to tell me what to do and to help those around me and in my family understand the situation. My sisters all think I should just be content to stay here and forget about having a loving relationship with someone. IT is tearing me apart.

I am ready to give up on all. I dont know how much more I can take.

 

[pradmin]

Lord, we thank you that you for the blessings that you have given us. Help us to honor you in every part of our lives. We place this request at your throne. Please hear and reply according to your perfect will and timing. Grant us the peace to know that you are in control. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[SwoldyMghee]

What Do We Do?

In the world we live in, we are going to have all kinds of problems, frustrations and difficulties. That's just life. So knowing this, what do we do?

We must remain steadfast and persevere. In other words, the answer is never give up! No matter what's going on in our lives, the victory is in refusing to quit.

Keep in mind that in the heat of our struggles, the Holy Spirit is probably doing His greatest work within us. He is not moved by the circumstances. If you and I really trust Him, we shouldn't be either! He's not in our lives for good times only, but for the difficult times as well.

He will lead us through anything if we'll just hang in there and follow Him. This means being diligent in prayer, relentless in our resolve, unwavering in faith, and determined to stand firmly on God's Word and His promises to us.

So many times we can be sidetracked by how slowly things seem to be going. In fact, the enemy loves to point that out! But remember, that's when God may be doing some of His greatest work. You see, it's not all about you and me. The Lord's work in us is preparation for the work He wants to do through us!

I know life can be hard sometimes. But I also know that God will help us if we remain steadfast. Let's stand on Galatians 6:9: "So let's not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up" (NLT).

So let me ask that question again: What do we do? My answer is, never give up! What's your answer?

Prayer Starter: God, I believe that You are at work in my life, even during difficult times. I choose today to remain steadfast and to never give up in obedience to You.

 

[cerileum]

Hi, i understand how you feel as i am a caregiver for parents also, god bless you for caring more for others then yourself. I hope the girl you love will soon understand how hard this is for you and try to make things easier for you. Good luck and dont give up, i am sure things will get better.

 

[SwoldyMghee]

I had no idea that you knew anything about my situation. Thanks a lot. The victory is never giving up, no matter the circumstances. I have faith in God in everything that he does and will do for my life. He continues to bless me in all aspects of life. He is pruning me. He has brought me home for a reason. I have prayed for you so there can be someway that you'll can meet halfway in the relationship for understanding. That's what relationships are about, meeting each other halfway in every way. Pray persistently and have faith. In Jesus name Amen!!

 

[Streetmedik]

What Do We Do?

So let me ask that question again: What do we do? My answer is, never give up! What's your answer?

There was a time I would boldly say "never give up". But the stress and anxiery have brought me to the place where I only think about giving up. All I see is cold, empty, lonliness.

Hi, i understand how you feel as i am a caregiver for parents also, god bless you for caring more for others then yourself. I hope the girl you love will soon understand how hard this is for you and try to make things easier for you. Good luck and dont give up, i am sure things will get better.

She calls daily, the house, cell phones, floods my email telling me how terrible I am for doing what I did... leave her to come and care for my father. Either she does not understand, or does not want to understand. All I know is I have no more strength.

 

[FROMWOUNDEDNESS]

Honey....difficult situation. But a woman who does not understand your responsibilities to take care of your aged parents(dad) is not likely to take care of you as you age. I say that knowing that we all mature, and that God change a person's heart and understanding.
So with that understanding I say,
pray for her understanding and growth
. Otherwise, you may need to cut ties with her. How can a person who claims to love you NOT understand that you love your father. This person does not sound to be healthy for you. Perhaps you need to seperate yourself from her
completely
for a time (even 30 days) so that you can simply pray about this relationship and GODS DESIRES for you.
Pray for God's guidance and be prepared to LISTEN.

 

[FROMWOUNDEDNESS]

Ephesians 6:1-4 ESV Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. (2) “Honor your father and mother†(this is the first commandment with a promise), (3) “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.â€

Colossians 3:20 ESV Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

1 Timothy 5:3-4 ESV Honor widows who are truly widows. (4) But if a widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show godliness to their own household and to make some return to their parents, for this is pleasing in the sight of God.

Proverbs 1:8-9 ESV Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching, (9) for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck.

Leviticus 19:3 ESV Every one of you shall revere his mother and his father, and you shall keep my Sabbaths: I am the LORD your God.

Exodus 20:12 ESV “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the LORD your God is giving you.

Proverbs 10:1 ESV The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother.

Be the son God has called you to be. PUT GOD completely first and all else will fall into place in due time. Hope those sisters of yours help out as much as possible. the role of caregiver is difficult, but blessed.

 

[Action238]

Honey....difficult situation. But a woman who does not understand your responsibilities to take care of your aged parents(dad) is not likely to take care of you as you age. I say that knowing that we all mature, and that God change a person's heart and understanding.
So with that understanding I say,
pray for her understanding and growth
. Otherwise, you may need to cut ties with her. How can a person who claims to love you NOT understand that you love your father. This person does not sound to be healthy for you. Perhaps you need to seperate yourself from her
completely
for a time (even 30 days) so that you can simply pray about this relationship and GODS DESIRES for you.
Pray for God's guidance and be prepared to LISTEN.

Well said and it's Truth...anyway....

 

[Action238]

Lord touch him with Peace and let him hear You clearly...bind the spirits of loneliness, depression, anxiety and fear. Lord let him see this situation through Your Spirit...Touch him with Truth and Wisdom...open His eyes Lord to Your divine will....Lord touch his girlfriend and bless her heart. cover her with mercy and grace and may she see You in her decisions and words bring her to the fullness of Truth in Jesus name...

Dearest Brother, she may not be equally yoked....not to glorify myself...but a christian gets past self...my mother in law was in my home in hospice for 6 months...she "hated" me, she was a fall down alcoholic. When she was in her last stages of lung cancer (from smoking)....We took her into our home...she was an awful mother, and practiced sin on a regular basis throughout my husbands life and all through my husbands life he took care of her more than she took care of him....

We both took care of her in Love..we fed her, washed her changed her diapers and watched her die.....and through it all much healing took place in those last months..and Love broke forth...because we obeyed.....it will be a year on April 30 (her birthday) that she passed on...She did accept Him, God into her heart before she died....and Love came forth bright and shining...we miss her much....

Lord send divine Love his way...cover him with Your Love and Truth in Jesus name...and may he hear what the Spirit is saying...

One more thing...anxiety and depression are not from God...so look at the source of where it does come from and stop it one way or the other...God bless you and may Peace guide and keep You