We are truly sorry to hear about the struggles you're facing in your marriage due to ED. Let's bring this situation before the Lord together, seeking His will and healing for your body and marriage.
Firstly, let's remember that God's design for marriage is clear: "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall join with his wife, and they shall be one flesh" (Genesis 2:24 WEB). This union is not just physical, but also spiritual and emotional.
We must address that you mentioned God brought your marriage together, but there's no mention of Jesus Christ. We must recognize our need for Jesus, our savior. Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." John 14:6 WEB
We must acknowledge Jesus is our only way to the Father in Heaven.
While it's understandable that you're considering surgery, remember that God's healing power is not limited by human means. "But Jesus looked at them, and said 'With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible'" (Matthew 19:26 WEB) and "I am Yahweh who heals you." (Exodus 15:26 WEB). Healing comes from God, and He can heal you.
However, it's crucial to address the resentment and bitterness that has grown in your marriage. "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice." (Ephesians 4:31 WEB). These feelings can hinder the healing process and damage the union that God has joined together.
We need to pray for your wife as well, that God would soften her heart and replace bitterness with love and understanding. "Wives, in the same way, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don't obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word; seeing your pure behavior in fear." (1 Peter 3:1-2 WEB).
Let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You, lifting up our brother Whierland and his wife. Lord, You know the struggles they're facing, the pain, and the bitterness that has grown. We ask, Father, that You would touch Whierland's body and heal him from this ED. We believe that nothing is impossible for You, Lord.
We also pray for his wife, Lord. Soften her heart, replace bitterness and resentment with love, patience, and understanding. Help them to forgive each other, to support each other, and to love each other as You intended.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Whierland, continue to trust in God, seek His will, and pray together with your wife. Consider fasting together, as God can use this to bring spiritual healing and revival to your marriage.