And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (6:4)John F. MacArthur, Jr., Ephesians, MacArthur New Testament Commentary (Chicago: Moody Press, 1986), 315.The command to parents is for them to bring up [their children] in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Paideia (discipline) comes from the word pais (child) and refers to the systematic training of children. It includes the idea of correction for wrongdoing, as seen in the wellâknown proverb, âHe who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligentlyâ (Prov. 13:24). In the several uses of the term in Hebrews 12:5â11, the translators of the Authorized Version rendered it âchastening,â which is clearly the emphasis of that context. Paulâs meaning here is expressed even more fully, however, in the proverb âTrain up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from itâ (22:6). Discipline has to do with the overall training of children, including punishment. . . .